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I went to a great ftf meeting on friday noght. Nothing piss's my a off more! Anyway, I knew I'd pay for it the next day. Sure enough the fight was on at 7:30 a.m. (my first time to sleep in for once, gone). He was so quickly back to the negative nasty person he becomes and I wasn't gonna take it! He suggested that I go live with my mother. I said, fine I will. He left to go golfing and my son and I worked to clean off the deck furniture and plant flowers to prepare for his graduation party. Gads, the thought of all that family about gives me hives! Anyway when we finnished I went to meet my brother and his wife for a fun (and rare night) at the casino. We had a blast, won a few bucks and had a great dinner and headed to their house. I left a note for my husband as to where I was going so he wouldn't call my Mom. She has a lot of health problems at 84 and doesn't need more to fret over. My sister in law is a double winner and very giving and wise about the program so it was a great place to be.
The next day, after a nap I headed home, a little afraid of what I would find. Well, the house was clean, the laundry done, the shopping done. The tone was still very sour to start with. He still was calling me his roommate. I mention that the house was half mine and if he wanted to buy me out I'd be gone. Otherwise I'll buy a bed and sleep in the spare room. I left the room and after a few minutes he comes to talk. Say's he know that he can't handle the drinking and he'a quiting, again. So, Here I am waiting, watching, praying, and going to meetings. We'll see how it goes.
This morning he help clean the deck off, I've been doing it myself for years, it was nice to have help for once. Of course we did it his way and when it still wasn't clean I showed him my way! Thanks to program I held my tongue unitl I knew I could offer a suggestion.
Now I'm off to get a pedicure with a good friend and he's making dinner. Things could be worse huh. I'll enjoy when I get it!
Hello Whitie , cunning baffling and powerful are three words i ahve a great deal of respect for today, they are words that alcoholics use to describe alcoholism. When my husb suggested that I ddin't have a piano tied to my butt , that i could leave anytime. I told he he didnt have that kinda luck !! That shut him up pretty quick.
Booze talk , promises , over and over again and I always believed the lies and got my hopes up , I was always dissapointed until I understood that when threatened they will do and say anything to get us off thier backs and out of thier face. that is the disease. Go to your meetings , keep the focus on yourself and enjoy. your worth it. It is possible to get happy regardless of what they are doing. and try and remember to not miss the good days. even cleaning off a patio can be a good day.
If you have a OdAT go the page on July 14th and do what it says to the best of your abiltiy and your life will get better, that page and the detachment pamphlet changed my life. oh yeah and those two things will keep u busy for months, I read it everday until I was doing what it said about 6months it took me . good luck Louise
Wow,,,,I can see where you really worked your program! You did well taking care of you and setting boundaries. I know how hard it is to bite one's tongue too but sometimes it is a good way of detatching. Thanks for sharing your life. I read your post yesterday but didn't have time to reply. I wonder if a pedicure would help me too :) your friend, cdb
