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Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happening > we need to let go but no one really tells you how to let go and move > forward. Sure it's easy to say: "Just let go, move forward, forget about > it, just let go." But that really doesn't work. I'm about to show you how > to let go and start moving forward. > > Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward. > > Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are > positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a > negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. > And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent > yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall everyday? > Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant > experiences that you're holding on to, which is preventing you from moving > forward. > > The more you carry the worse life gets. Why? Because you've filled your > mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to > something that doesn't allow you to move forward, in short, you're > carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down. > > Think of it this way: you're on a hiking trip and along the way you keep > picking up heavy objects, things that really don't serve you. After a > while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of > them, you'll never complete your trip. > > To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and > different objectives. It's not about saying: I let go of the pain from my > fight with ---- and move on. That will help, but if you really want to > start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things, in > the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing > you down. > > How to Let Go and Move Forward > > Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad > emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could > reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a > negative effect on your cells and your physical health. > > Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life > in ways you're not even aware of. Ask yourself these questions: Do the > negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose? Do they help you > move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way? If you said no to any > or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn't > help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin > focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can > improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a > new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the > negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations. > When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting > positive situations. > > The next step is to create an action plan, the past is over. Where do you > want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the > answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a > new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and > emotions. > > The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction > so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you > the opportunities to move forward. > > The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the > now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in > the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this > present moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that > you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere > else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some > of you may say the following: "But Karim, where I am right now really > sucks, I don't want to think about it." It only sucks because you're > looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the > positive things, anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. > This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your > subconscious mind that you're ready for new possibilities, then you'll > begin to let go and move forward.
