The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship?
Are the costs (-) outweighing the benefits? (+) What does this person have to offer me?
What does this person have LEFT to offer me?
So, I guess I had a system for weeding them out of my life....then I realized I kept choosing A's to date. So, then I decided to never marry one. Well, the jokes on me....because I married one I didn't think was an alcoholic, but turned out to be one! (and the universe manages to dangle an alcoholic under my nose, sober or active, when my husband breaks his sobriety)) [Get that magnet off my back!]
Well, the above guidelines are still helpful to me today....just more shades of gray with that marriage certificate on the wall ! With sobriety back in our lives...perhaps the scale will tilt back to more positives than negatives, more benefits than costs! One dat at a Time.
