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My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she won't talk about anything. She says she doesn't feel good. Now this may sound rude but I have so much stress in my life right now, my dog has cancer and is going through treatment, I am graduating from High School in 2 weeks and I have to make decisions about college and everything while my family is disolving before my eyes. I can't take it! I have no idea what to do, how to feel or where to turn. I understand that my mother is dealing with this in her own way but I know that she isn't doing it in a healthy way. I am so scared that this will be my life from now on, and it is so directly opposit of what it was before my dad starting going to AA. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry about what you are going through. My parents are both As and I'm graduating from high school in about a month and a half. Even though my parents are As I have still managed to visit the colleges I have been accepted to, and I have sent in my deposit to the college I want to attend. I have some questions. Since you graduate from high school in two weeks are you set to go to college? I mean have u applied to colleges? been accepted? chose where u want to go? sent in the deposit? or what? Sorry for all the questions. You don't have to answer them if you don't want to. I asked them so i could better understand your situation and be able to tell you what I'd do if I was you. Take care. I'm here if you want to talk.
It is hard when no one around you seems to care about you, I haven't experienced the childhood portion of alcoholism. But I can tell you how hard it is to be your mother and deal with it. I know when my a went to a treatment center for a couple weeks I spent the whole time doubting it was going to work. I was more depressed while he was there then I am now that is is active. The depression comes from the lack of knowing how to care for me and the fear that he will get better and I won't and then I he will leave me anyway or that I will be the problem so to speak in the family.
I can only imagine how hard this is for you. The only thing I can suggest is that you seek out someone that can be your sounding board like another family member grandparent, aunt or uncle, maybe attend a f2f meeting of your own, make a contact there or here or a teacher/counselor in your school. This is a great place with a lot of good people, maybe someone can help you through this. Its hard doing it all on your own but you can get through this, just don't be afraid to seek out the help you need to make the process less painful.
