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Cdb has requested I post for her about her daughter. They had to rush her daughter to ER tonight. She had an ultrasound and catscan. She went into emergency surgery. Her white count was 20,000. Doctors not sure what was going on but were going to take her appendix out. (Not sure if appendix was the problem.) They're doing exploratory surgery. Cdb is holding up well, but asks that those of us who pray, please do so. She will post with an update when she is able.
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Let your light shine in the darkness. "I can't just bring my mind to meetings...I must also bring my heart."
I guess when it rains it pours. Daughter got fired from her job today. Tonite she was at our house and got intense pain so during the meeting I rushed her to ER. I just got home after her surgery 3am. took appendix out and it was fine. In fact, all her insides are in great shape. She is resting well and if her white count goes down she will be home tomorrow. Otherwise they may keep her. Ty for your prayers,,,cdb :)
Daughter is not coming home today :( Her white count is still very high and they don't know why. She is not in as much pain even though she has several incisions and no appendix now. I am really struggling today because her selfish alcoholic personality is showing and she lashed out at me earlier on the phone. I was crying so hard and needed support. Didn't get it in the room even though I pleaded. I guess 5 minutes before the meeting starts is not a good time to ask for help. OH well. Thank God, I finally found Xan and she helped me so much. Daughter told me to quit playing the victim role cause I mentioned talking to doctor on phone when he came in room. She is choosing to be in control in her sick alcoholic way. Hubby called me a blabbermouth last night etc. while we were waiting for her to get out of surgery. I didn't want to interupt the meeting this morning but I did type before transcripts ran, I need to talk to someone pleaseeeeeeee,,,,pleaseeeee won't someone talk to me? Well, let go let god. Stuff happens. cdb
cdb, I will pray for everything to work out for you and your family . You and your family have been though so much hang in there (((((((((((cdb))))))))))
Thank you so much for your replies. I took a short nap and feel somewhat better. I am cleaning now trying to get ready for company and hubby isn't much of a help. It takes so much out of me to do such little amount with my chronic pain. I am only doing the necessary things. Hubbys sister and her daughter will be at my house Friday nite too!
I just read an email from someone and they reminded me to rely on my HP. I guess through all this I forgot to connect up with God. I am going to do that now since hubby and son(who just drove into town) went to see our daughter. I will go up later. Earlier I told both of them I was thinking of not seeing her today because of her attitude but I realized that hurt people hurt people, Something I have learned here and also that misery and suffering are an option (that one thanks to maria). WEll, time to have some God time. Thanks again, cdb
Know that I love you, as do many in the room. The key is you have to love yourself most of all and then the rest comes easy. Love and acceptance. I am glad you remember to let go and let God. He's got a plan for you. You can move out of the way, listen to the messages and learn, and let him steer your boat, my dear. OK? I too prayed for your daughter. Stuff like this really causes stress. Remember to breathe, slowly and concentrate on your breathing. Remember THINK Thoughtful, Honest, Important, Necessary and Kind before you respond, especially during stressful situations.
Love you and keeping you in my prayers,
Maria123
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Hoping for a full recovery for your daughter. Please remember she is just as afraid as you are for her. She doesn't know whats going on with her own body. Sobriety does not bring complete changes to a persons personality. I had to learn that this week with my husband. But hopefully when she feels better she will have a better attitude about things.
As for you - take it easy and let HP carry you through this difficult time. My prayers are with you both.
Karen
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Karen
I'm sorry I didn't see this post sooner. I didn't realize your daughter and you where going through this as well.
I hope she is feeling better and up and around soon.
As for you, don't forget to care for and be kind to yourself. You spend so much time being thoughtful and giving to others, remember how important you are.
Thanks so much for the prayers and replies. I just got back from the hospital and daughter is in good spirits and apologized for anything she may have said to me that was hurtful. She was concerned that the morphine would compromise her sobriety date but I have no idea. She seems so much better than last night but of course now she has the pains from the stomach surgery. It is way better than the pain she had last night. She is no longer on morphine. She is calling me in the morning right after she sees the doctor. Thanks again for the prayers. I am so tired and exhausted that things seem a little surreal. cdb :)
A big hug to you my friend. You've certainly had you fair share of stress and then some....try to find some time to de-stress, lest you make your own physical pain that much worse (as can happen in extreme stress). We're all praying for you AND your family.
((((((((((Cdb)))))))))) Hugs for you and daughter. Her sobriety sounds so important to her and that is wonderful, even thinking about it and fearing the morphine thing speaks volumes and I am so gald to here that she is doing much better. I am also glad that she appologised to you.
I often find that when I am in pain and full of fear that when my mom is only looking after me I tent to snap at her and feel like an ass afterwards. Just went through some of that. An ego thing.
I am still praying for you, your daughter and your parents.
I am so glad things worked out,,your daughter is in the best place she needs to be right now, getting the medical attention. Please dont be too hard on yourself, and dont take things too personally, as a rule when people are afraid they do lash out, and mostly hurting people hurt people. I am sure she did not mean any of it. Take care of you.
