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This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep.
This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no response to my question. Can you imagine, he fell asleep, as he was speaking to me.
He called me back later in the afternoon, because when I called his answering machine went off, so our conversation was recorded. He felt very sorry, because he realized what had happened.
I went to a meeting tonight, and I feel better now. I guess it is never over, till it is finished. Sometimes, I loose hope, that he will ever be better. These are the difficult times for me. Thanks for being there, and for listening to me.
i had a similar situation this morning. My a husband is out of town this week (once a year thing). He called early this morning, I know it's because he couldn't call the night before, because I would be able to detect he wasn't sober. That is what I expected him to do but it still pissed me off for the whole day. It's never over! So I got my butt to a yoga class and hung out here a bit. All so helpful. Thanks to all who post and touch my life.
Isn't it so amazing when we get out of their shoes, and into our own. I have so much gratitude in my life since I am able to do that. I must admit, that sometimes the old patterns die hard, yet as time goes on, it gets easier and easier to detach, and to stay in my own reality. I think that it was great that you put the focus on yourself, and went to your yoga class. That is what it is all about, putting the focus on ourself. Thanks for your post.
Hi, Teddybear, I am sorry to hear about your son. I have three sons and I believe one is an A although he denies it. He doesn't live close by, but I hear from his girlfriend about his actions. She has asked for suggestions on how to deal w him since I am dealing w my A husband. I want to step in and heal my son because he is my "child" and he has his life ahead of him (hopefully). It is a different kind of pain for me. My A husband does his own thing and listens to little that I say regarding his health.
I know that when I am unhappy, I lack contact w my HP; it is because I have not worked on ME.
From your posts, you are doing great. Keep up the great work, and, Teddybear, thank you for posts. Love and blessings to you and your son. Annie
We really do have much in common.. I often get news about my youngest son, usually through his girlfriend also. As a matter of fact, I had thought that my son was doing very well. His girlfriend told me, that he has blackouts, and that he drinks very heavily. I don't think that I wanted to hear that!!
My husband is a dry A and I must say that he is getting better, because I WILL NOT ACCEPT his verbal abuse any more. I can not speak to him about what is going with my sons either. He does not want to hear.
My sons are my heart, and my heart still breaks, when I see them still suffering from the disease.
I have been going to Al-anon for five years now, and it helps me to detach from their sickness, yet not always. You know, some days it works, and other days it does not.
One thing sure.....I know that my HP will help me. I always remember, if he brought it to me, He will bring me through it. I tell myself, that my sons also have a HP and they will find their answers too. I sponsor people, and I have a sponsor. All of us need the tools to progress, and I think that you are using them well too. May God (HP) Bless you, and yours too.
Hi teddybear - I'm so sorry for your pain - I don't have any kids so I have no idea what a Mother goes through when children are afflicted with this horrible disease. It has to be heart breaking.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful, and caring response. I really feel your empathy, and I feel blessed to have a friend like you. God (HP) bless you, and keep you safe, and well.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart. It is very comforting to know, that there are other people, who are also praying for my son too. I believe so much in the power of prayers, because I know that when I pray for others, it is in a circle of love. Thank you for being there, for caring, and for your kind, and loving thoughts.
