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ann


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 It's to late for my family. It might not be for your's. It's been almost a month now. We still can't believe it happened. We didn't expect it. Although It was a shock, it didn't suprise us how it happened, it suprised us that it did happen. He's gone!  We will never see him again on earth. Why? Why wouldn't he/couldn't he stop. It started with a beer. Just a sip from an adult's can when he was a toddler, not often just sometimes. By the time he was a teen it was much more often. Poured into a pop can on the way to school, when he decided to go to school. A little buzz on a Friday night. Why not it was a great way to socialize, meet new people, make new friends. Nothing wrong with that. Everybody was doing it. We met at the home of a mutal friend. He was "partying" with them. We were looking for weed. He was 15 years old, I was17 years old. He asked me for a ride home. He only lived two blocks away. I took him home. We met again a few years later (he was 17 yrs. old I was 19 yrs. old) At the same friends house. My friend and I were looking for a buzz. They invited us in. one was rolling up "a fat one". We sat in the bedroom smoking it together. He reached into his pocket, handed me a bottle of Schnapps. That started a 23 year relationship. that ended in a divorce 4 years ago. We never stopped loving each other. I stopped . He couldn't. I want to help others. I don't want you to suffer the way we suffer now. Maybe I'll write more later. It's very hard. I can't believe the love of my life is forever gone.   



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Hello ann,


(((((((((((((supportive hugs))))))))))))) I am so very sorry for your loss. For a little bit, I wondered if this was my daughter typing. Seriously. I am not quite sure if your loved one left or what? I will wait until you can post more. All of us here do need alot of support. I will say prayers for you now and until I see you again here. I do hope everything is okay with you. It is late, but I am up and just read your post and will be thinking of you tonight. your friend , cdb



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((((((((((((((((((Ann))))))))))))))))))


So Sory Ann, I hope that you have love and support surrounding you in this time. I Will send special thoughts and prayers to you and your family tonight and for quite some time.


I hope that you keep comming back as you have touched me in a special way. I see your name and think of my MIL who was a great friend and mom to me. I remember her in a special way as she to was a member of alanon.


Again special thoughts and prayers for you.  JJ



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debilyn


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oh ann, wish I could really hug you and let ya cry.
I lost my first husband to alcohlism/death.

Am watching my now husband die too.

I do know how you feel. You wrote a very powerful post.

love,debilyn

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I'm terribly sorry for loss.  I pray that in time, you'll recall only the good things.


Christy



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((((Ann)))) I am sooo sorry for your loss.It's a horrible, horrible disease!! Please keep coming back, we're here for you, with lots and lots of TLC.



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(((Ann)))


Your post brought tears to my eyes. Your pain came through in every word. I am so sorry for your loss.


It is a horrible disease and I hate it, the pain and waste of life that it causes.


His battle is over and he is at peace now. I pray that you can now find your peace, and remember the good times.


                                Love Jeannie



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megan


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Hello Ann


I am very very sorry for your loss.


Alcoholism is a terible miserable and painful disease.


Thank-you for sharing some background on how you met.


My husband and I went through similar situations. We drank at concerts, drank at parties and now, he just drinks....tries to stop, succeeds, falters, succcombs....a very sad pattern.


Why cannot he just stop? I don't have the answer either.


He is at peace now....


Take care of yourself


Megan

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Mark S


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Ann,
There are things in life that we find out we cannot change, we wish with all our heart that we could...but we can't. Your story may make a difference in anothers life though. Thank you for sharing it. I am truly sorry for your loss.

Mark S

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