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I haven't posted here in a while. I am doing very good since the last time I posted. My husband is now sober for over 56 days. I have gotten a sponsor. The thing that I am having a problem is control, it is a major problem. I am having a hard time with it. My husband is trying to get more indpendence to get better and I want to control things from not changing. I hate good and bad change. I have recently moved into a new apt that I thought I would hate and I have turn out to love it. I was so upset that I was cutting my arm because I was stressing my self out that much.
I am trying work the program but like I have a problem with control. He wants to work in the post office but the sad things is I don't want him to because I wouldn't be able to spend time with him. I hate the idea of the change.
BECKY
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
change is hard, but realizing how you act or react to it is the first step to changeing.
control is another hard thing to work thru- i can relate, i want to control the outcome of things with my daughter and get into pointing things out that could happen- ya know, the what ifs...
i can work myself into a paralyzing frenzy if i allow the control to take over. i will pray for you.
Hello ny , well we are pieces of work aren't we, we want them to stop drinking and when they do we dont like the changes that happen, any doubt that we are a little sick ?? hehe Have beenwhere your at ny , take it one day at a time and you will be just fine. remembe that the only thing that is constant is change , go with the flow accept what is and enjoy.
Glad u like your new apt. and wish hubby luck with his new job it will be good for both of you he won't be working 24-7 so u will have some time with h im. We cannot be an extention of someone else and be happy. Two happy individuals I believe have a better chance of making it. When I depend on someone else to make me feel whole I am in big troublel. I am the onl yone that can do that for me. took me awhile to understand that . So be patient with yourself ny and relax and enjoy sobriety. It was along time commin.
I, too, struggled for a long time with Step One. Ultimately, I had to hit my personal bottom to become willing enough to admit that I am powerless over alcohol and that my life has become unmanageable.
The good news is, once I was able to admit that, I could go on to step two and things slowly got better!
I am to hear you were cutting yourself. I do the same thing in similar situations even though I know how bad it is for me. Try to love yourself just a little bit more each day. If you turn your cutting over to your HP, you may be surprised by the results! I have very little desire to hurt myself in that way now compared to even six months ago.
Keep coming back and thank you for your share.
Love and hugs, Jessi
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If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.
to hear you were cutting yourself. I do the same thing in similar situations even though I know how bad it is for me. Try to love yourself just a little bit more each day. If you turn your cutting over to your HP, you may be surprised by the results! I have very little desire to hurt myself in that way now compared to even six months ago.