Al-Anon Family Group

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums -> Al-Anon Family Group -> Al-Anon Family Group -> Experience, Strength, and Hope
Post Info TOPIC: Experience, Strength, and Hope
bob6502


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 256
Date:
Experience, Strength, and Hope
Permalink  

When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober.  Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me.  Did I need help?  Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right???  Wrong!!!  I was married to my alcoholic for eleven years before he became sober and in recovery, and that's eleven years of wreckage that needed to be healed.  It doesn't happen overnight either. As I hear many people say in the chat room, this program is a process not an event. I came to alanon thinking I was going to help my alcoholic and I ended up helping me.  I am not the same person that I was when I joined. I was afraid of the steps at first because I had been used to put- downs and criticism all my life.  I was never what I should be in other peoples eyes.  I didn't want to beat myself up anymore. I have discovered through working the steps that I am not a bad person, in fact, I am starting to like myself.  I have worked past my victim status and found a person with courage and strength. I stay with this program because this is progress not perfection. That's why I keep coming back....for support, for courage, and the love of people that won't judge me but accept me for who I am and who I will become.  Thank you all for this wonderful program.  Bob6502 aka SenoraBob.

__________________

Higher Power doesn't always wrap presents in pretty paper.

megan


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 1161
Date:
Permalink  


Yes, progress not perfection Senora Bob.


I see the changes in myself and my life too.


I am no longer the victem, I am moving towards independance in many things.


I use the alanon tools daily in my life.


I too did not know that alanon was going to be "for me" I couldn't be more delighted with the program



__________________
Megan If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
debilyn


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 3131
Date:
Permalink  

Glad you are here. I like the process thing. It sure is. keep coming back! love,debilyn

__________________

"If wishes were wings,piggys would fly."
<(*@*)>
david62


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 1501
Date:
Permalink  

Buenos Dias, SenoraBob!


Amen my friend...Alanon has changed who I am as well...Tired of being a victim...Tired of being a doormat...Tired of being Good Ole Dependable Dave.... Tired of being taken for granted...Just plain damned Tired of being Tired!!!!!!!


It works if you work it...believe!


I love alanon....and i love you ....ALL of you!


Thanks for the share Bob.....so glad you are here! 


Yours in Recovery,


David



__________________
Laughter is the Beginning of Healing
dot


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 154
Date:
Permalink  

Hi Bob - Welcome and thank you for a great post with lots of good stuff.

Love and hugs - Dot

__________________
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.
Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums -> Al-Anon Family Group -> Al-Anon Family Group -> Experience, Strength, and Hope