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Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative.
My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in starting a fight with this poor young guy that took a liking for my sister and was just a nice guy that my brother didn't like. I stepped in to stop it and probably shoudn't have but my brother has no right starting fights considering he has HIV. Well that is what i think any how. I didn't defend my brother because he totally deserved anything he got that night but just could not let the fight break out. I felt bad for my dad because it was his birthday and the incident could have been avoided had my brother minded his own business.
Anyhow it is over and done with and I am working on letting it go and have realized from this that my brother is to unstable to be around my kids and until he shows some growth in himself that is how it will be. I do love him but my kids come first and his actions lately are on the carless behavior side. I realize that he is going through alot but for goodness sake think of others too.
First, thank you for your heartfelt reply to my posts. I bet that alot of people have all kinds of drama at family get togethers too. It sounds to me like you were very mature about the situation and handled yourself really well. And you are right, your kids well being and safety come first. I can understand how your brother is probably full of anger too but it sure wasn't an appropriate way to handle it that day. The thing I try to do is cherish the good moments that you and the kids had over the weekend and let dad and all handle their own issues. I have never been very good at this way of dealing with things but am trying to now since it is by far the healthier way. I would still try to keep the communication open with my brother on the telephone where it is safer for the kids and you. Your brother may also find a time to apologize or amend his behaviour. I can't imagine going through what he is going through now. Yet, we are all still accountable for our own actions. Thanks for keeping us updated on your life and how you are doing. I can sure see how much progress you have made in such a short time. You give me inspiration that this program can change us and change our lives! cdb
