Here's My Story - Al-Anon Family Group

Lanchas · Senior Member

Here's My Story

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi and welcome

Here is a link you may want to explore

http://www.al-anon-alateen.org/alateen.html

It is for teens affected by drinking.

You are also VERY welcome to post here.

My story is different. I live with an alcoholic husband. He lies passed out on the couch at 9:42am. There is NOTHING I can do to help him... But there is alot I can do to help myself.

Alanon/alateen is for US, those people affected by anothers drinking.

welcome. You are in the right place and taking the important dirst step to getting help.

Living with an active alcoholic is living with insanity.

Keep coming back. I promise you things will get better..

megan

cdb · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello Lanchas,

My situation is opposite or yours. My daughter is the alcoholic and she graduated and moved away from me and went to college. I worried alot about her instead of taking care of me and enjoying my life. You may find yourself worrying about your mom too, but do what I am trying to do now with alanon. Keep the focus on you and enjoy your life and have fun at college. It is up to my daughter to drink or not drink and that is basically the same for you mom too. IN fact, while I worry, my daughter is having a great time and enjoying her life. It is time we alanon people started thinking of us and enjoying our life too. cdb :)

kerry5 · Senior Member

i sure can relate to what its like to grow up with two active alcoholics. My parents were violent alcoholics who used to fight with eachother when we were young, but when i was 8 i kind of knew what they were doing. When we were old enough the fighting stopped between them and they hit me instead. There are two things that i should of done and didnt and i am glad you are coming for help at this age. I came for help when i was 27. Lived alot of my 20's as a very angry person still am. i used to resent my parents so much. They dont drink now they are dry drunks they stopped drinking when i had kids. I told them if they didnt they wouldnt know thier grandchildren.One is stay in this program no matter what, even when you feel fed up of it stick it out. I ran from it and stopped my self from recovering and backed up many years. There are times where youll feel like recovery is actually possible and then there are times when you feel let down by this program. All in all it comes down to it works if you work it and i hope you do. glad you are here. I used to be a alateen sponser before i got scared of recovery and ran from it. Now My mother i found out two weeks ago is dying of cancer. and all this doesnt seem to matter much anymore i dont hold the past so tightly now because i regret it i should of enjoyed the last years she was ok, but instead i resented her because she was an amazing grandmother to my children and she was never that way when i was a kid. But i realize to late she was making it up to me through them. I hope this helps you a little hope i didnt discourage you from here i only offered you what i learnt . I hope to see you soon. I would say the first time in the program i really needed to learn to detach from my parents and that was very hard i still cant do it. But returning for me what i need to learn has changed now i need to learn to let go . I will do this for my children so i do not pass this disease any further which i already started i think im not a perfect parent bbut i do the best i can .

kerry

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