Alcoholism is a family disease. Living with the effects of somene elses drinking is too devastating for most people to bear without help. In alanon we learn individuals are not responsible for another person's disease or recovery from it. We let go of our obsessions with another's behaviour and begin to lead a happier and more manageable lvies, lives with dignity and rights:lives guided by a power greater than ourselves.

In alanon we learn:

Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people

Not to allow ourselves to be used or abused by others in the interest of anothers recovery.

Not to do for others what they could do for themselves

Not to manipulate situations so others will eat,,go to bed,,,get up,,,pay bills,,not drink.

Not to cover up for anyone's mistakes or misdeeds.

Not to create a crisis.

Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural course of events.

Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of a person or situation from which we are detaching. It simply si a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse affects that another persons alcoholism can have upon our lives.

Detachment helps families look at their situations realistically and objectively, therby making intellegent decisions possible.

I hope this helps someone,,and for me,,heard it a million times but like most I need to hear this reinforcement time and time again,,,,,,gardengal