The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
www.songdov.com/jellinek.htmwww.1016.org/Jellink.html and www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (Please note spellings).
I have been reading them over the last few weeks.
yesterday i stayed late at work and printed out alot of information about the health effects of alcohol.
I left the printouts on my husbands nightstand and did not mention it to him
My night: I come home late, he doesn't notice.
I get changed and he says hey why don't you ride me to the store and then I'll buy something. I said we have a pot full of chili, cold cuts and food in the freezer - but of course I know what he wants. he pouts a little, gets a little mean and I leave the room. I come up 2 hours later and he is crying a little. I ask him why and he doesn't answer. I told him, you quit for 5 months you can go without tonight.
I went back downstairs. A little while later he came down and kissed me. Even later still he came to bed,
This morning he said he is quitting but he feels awful physically - withdrawal... I told him to ask God for help.
Today I was on the phone with my A (he stopped drinking yesterday night, trying to quit again) and he said "I read the literature you left" I said "thank-you"
We talked awhile more about light things (I'm at work) and said our goodbyes.
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
Hi... Praying for you both. That's the only way I got mine back in AA....softly talking about it. We talked to the wee hour of 3 a.m., when he finally gave me his last reason for misfortune. (He was breaking down as the booze was wearing off) In the light of day, at 8a.m., I said, "do you think the real problem is alcohol?" He said, "Yep, and I am going back to AA." He held on to the drink like a little child hanging on to a teddy bear.
He attended AA for 2 months, then quit. A year without a program, dry drunks, we still were not working out on Jan 2. of this year-- with one in program (me), so on mutual agreement he went back to meetings for one month. Life has been relaxing for me this last month, but it's still one day at a time. Yesterday was a tough day for both of us, and I know he needs a meeting, but I can't do that for him. Keep coming back.
I just read your post and still have goose bumps! Wow, so awesome. Keep on posting and updating us. Your Higher Power must really be working and your post gave me inspiration. cdb
