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You know I should be grateful that she wants to go back to rehab. It seems though she has to believe that I truly intend to divorce her before she decides she wants to go to rehab..(the way it happened last time) who is she doing it for? If she is doing it to pacify me I know it won't work this time either. I have witnessed her sincerity for 14 years and find it pretty empty. I know that for some it takes several times through to have it stick though. I just don't know if I can survive several times. I can't go on like this another day, whether that other day is tomorrow or next year. My kids have been through enough and I have been through enough and it may be time to think of my self and them. I love her, atleast in the day time when she is not covering for her actions. Night time seems to bring out the Mrs Hyde in her. I wish I had a crystal ball, sure would make decisions like this alot easier.
My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. You sound like you're at the end of your rope, may your HP guide you. Come here often and try to get to some f2f meetings, work the steps, you know the routine! Maybe she has never really hit bottom? As you say, she has to do it for herself, maybe this time, her HP will push her in the right direction? Most of all, take care of you and your children! It ain't easy! Thinking of you, TLC
mark all i am going to say is if it walks like a duck and acts like a duck, it probably is a duck. take care of you and your children. just do what you have to do and let God handle the rest. good luck. it isn't easy being a nice person.
I hope things are going well for you and the kids. If possible could you update us on how everything is? My 20 year old A is in inpatient treatment now and a year ago did outpatient. My husband and I are having a relaxing break now that she is there. I have also been in a treatment center when my children were young for an eating disorder so I do know how hard it is on the kids and parents to be seperated. I was in only 2 weeks but it leaves an impact on the entire family. I am thinking of you all and praying that your wife is doing this for her this time just like I am hoping my daughter is in treatment and doing it for herself too. cdb
