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I got a few calls the other night (been too sick to answer the phone) and luckily found out he's been released before I actually picked up the phone. At least now I know that I need to screen my calls again so I don't get taken by surprise. So much for my divorce filing plans. Last message I heard was - will you at least email me my mom's phone number? I decided to do her a favor and not reply!
Upon reading serendipity's post, I got to thinking about the warnings we receive about people and ignore. My A had a former girlfriend with a child of his. He married me and fought for custody of that son but when it became too difficult he walked away, went on with his life I suppose. She didn't want anything to do with him and made his life very hard for a while. Now I think about all those things I said I'd never do and find myself thinking I have become her. Not for any lack of him saying the same. Not that it's necessarily a bad thing. It's just something to think about and pay more attention to in the future.
I've thought about that too... how my exA would talk about his ex-wife and how I only heard his side of the story. It would be interesting to hear her side. It doesn't really matter now... just interesting.
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Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
I often remind myself of that when I feel myself beginning to get judgemental about someone just b/c of something I have heard about them. 2 sides.
Funny thing with that....is when it comes to my exAH - he gives everyone he talks to BOTH sides.....it just depends on his emotional state at the time of the conversation. LOL. Sometimes he talks about his screw ups and how he is to blame for everything. And then other times, I am the biggest B*&^CH that never had sex with him and I obviously have some serious issues. LOL. He states which ever story suites him the best at that particular moment.
All I know is how I feel and that I feel good about my situation now and the decisions I have made to improve my life!! :)
