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I just thought a bit of an update might be nice. My AH and I had one of those days today. You know the ones that blow the lid off the pressure cooker. The one that the other shoe doesn't just drop, it slams to the floor like a CA earthquake. It was one of those days that no matter what either of us did, nothing went our way. We had one irritating problem after another and just when we had said our Serenity Prayer and thought ok there is at least one thing I can do something about, we were shown very quickly that we were wrong on that count too. i won't go into all the **** details, just suffice it to say this day a year ago would have S*****.
But it didn't.
Can you believe that. It didn't. The lid stayed on. Both feet were soundly grounded, no earthquakes. Not one thing today seemed to go our way, but we handled it. And we didn't just handle it. We handled it well. We smiled after we got over being mad and frustrated with the neighbor. We smiled after we got over wanting to cry when the darn snowblower broke down. We smiled after we finally got the animals fed after dark and in the -2 degrees cold.
We smiled and my AH and I sat down and talked for a few minutes this evening about how we thanked our HP's for his sobriety and both of our recovery programs. Because I know very well how we would have come through this day without them.
So here's a little hope for you all because sometimes we seem to be a little short on it. My AH only has about 140 days sober, but his program is strong right now. I don't know what the future holds for us. We are still separated and I don't want to live together again for a good while, but today was a good day. And lately we have been having more good days than bad. I am watching carefully actions not words, and I have hope. Our family and our marriage is not the fairy tale I had in my mind, but sometimes things do work out in real life, too.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Jen - aren't those days when we see our program at work in everyday life so wonderful? You can actually see how the way we handle a situation can change everything. Especially wonderful when the A is working their program and the two of you can come together in recovery. Thanks for the uplifting share!
Jen, I had a good day recently when I thought it was going to be really really bad. It was my wedding anniversary and I was getting ready for it to bring my nice serene post winter holiday period to a screeching halt. It didn't (I am proud to announce that my post winter holiday stretch of serenity is still serene)! I love this program!
Its especially great to hear how you and your sober hubby are learning together and in a loving respectful way. Gee, if only you could bottle and sell some of THAT! WOW, I would want a lifetime supply! I really am so glad to hear of this success- it shows that the promises are there. BTW, I might have to post the al-anon promises sometime on this site. They are so great. You are a manifestation of these promises- and its not a bed of roses, but you said it so well. thanks for the hope: you remind me of the PROMISES!! hugs, J.
I like them too. They were posted on here some months back by somebody, Jerry or Tom, I think. I'll look for them. I had never even seen them til then.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
oh sweet! only 140 days? I'm not going to go there, but I will start now counting my own days of focusing on myself instead of on my dear alcoholic husband. I love hearing about your day. awesome! Jill
