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I just posted a response to ((((Carolinagirl's)))) Suffering and suddenly felt so full of gratitiude for this family sharing that I just had to tell you all.
After posting on carolinagirl's Suffering post it made me rethink about the beauty of my daughter. Thinking of the times that she and her brother witnessed such dreadful behaviour and bullying and beating that I received from their father when he was drinking and when he was not drinking - he was worse most of the time when he could NOT get a drink - and I feel that I can understand the aggression that my daughter dishes out now.
I am sure the root of it is anger, for all that she endured during that time. It explains her behaviour though nothing justifies her behaviour.
So, it is with gratitude that I write this now, for it has again brought me to a place of comtemplation were I might gain a little more understanding of this terrible disease and the rippling effects that it has on the (((((WHOLE family)))))).
God bless and peace to all.
Heartbroken
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"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." The Talmund
I am glad it helped you to do that, I think my daughter also suffers because of things she was put thru by the A. She was always his scapegoat, the bad one, the liar, etc. She could never be good enough in his eyes. She is very very resentful of him now and wants absolutely nothing to do with him and I can't say I blame her. It's hard sometimes to remember that they have all been through this chaos too and they have feelings about it just like I do. Everyone sees from a different perspective based on what they're capable of understanding at the moment. He would still say his drinking didn't have any effect on the kids but that's a delusion, I think even the youngest knew there was something wrong with his dad but just couldn't articulate it then.
