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Well, I guess you could say that the sideswipe is starting to stop spinning me around as fast as it was, and I get to really start the 5 steps of the grief for my mom, even if it is off time. I had to wait to throw a house together, and deal with some of her issues before I could really start to accept and miss her, and really and truly cry for what will never be at this point in time. Life goes on, and I have to start dealing with it, though God knows I'm not ready.
-- Edited by Unsure at 06:56, 2007-11-06
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Do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will take care of itself, only be concerned with the day you are living, today.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I went back and read your posts. You do not have to be on any schedule to grieve for your mom. And you have already started that process. Your posts say you have been in the anger and denial and barganing fazes already and you will probably be there on and off again for some time. Just try to be gentle and take time for yourself. Grieving is a healthy process. It takes time, like most things worthwhile. I suspect that you are greiving for more than the loss of your mom. Your whole life has changed. You had a lot of your life focused on her life and it revolved daily around her. Of course you are going to have a sense of being left behind and not knowing what to do with yourself. Once things calm down with the estate and your own home gets settled, you will be able to find some things to not just occupy your time, but satisfy your needs. Your life sounds temporarily out of focus to me.
I hope I don't sound judgemental, or like I'm telling you what to do. Just making obsevations.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I am not sure of your story but I feel the loss and pain in your words. Please take good care of your self and know your MIP family is always here to listen.
hugs from ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
Grief is not an easy process, I am still dealing with the loss of my parents, Mom in 1997 and Dad in 1999. I am able to cope much better by trusting in my HP (whom I call God).
I miss them terribly at times, and I have been angry at being left alone at other times. As you said though, life does go on, and times will change. Don't be afraid to own your feelings, this will help with the grieving process.
I will pray for you, as the holidays seem to be the worst for me still.
Take care of yourself,
Cookie
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