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Hi All, My student contacted me late this week. I had given her an extension on work due as she cited difficulties. I made an appointment to see her the week after next and the times are difficult for her. However to see her asap, I chose to choose the times. She tried to lay a guilt trip on me and I decided to contact the course director, flagging him on scheduling difficulties. I also sought help from a colleague and have asked her to co-supervise this student. She very kindly agreed. I have emailed the student involved and told her of my action and have advised her that due to my schedule this will be a good option for. In addition, I find her manipulative and to be fair to her, rather than mark her with a negative attitive (mine) I choose to give her every opportunity. Quite frankly I am tired of her games and lack of respect but these are her choices. I have made mine. Say a prayer that I will continue to act objectively as this one really does press a lot of my buttons.
As a student, in training to become an instructor, education is very important to me. It is awesome 2 c that u have pulled or pooled -- in other staff to become an aide to what appears to be a colourful matter with a student re coursework that sounds to be incomplete at this point. Your share plucks my heart strings.
That decision, the extension of accepting the knowing how in the program that we are powerless is truly mirrored in your decision re your student. Now, me, as a student, with two (2) incompletes under my own belt re my own graduate studies program I am enrolled into, my own sense of powerlessness in completing those classes is now based in a mire of red tape Salliemae slipped on my progress re my coursework -- due to my incident surrounding a fall in the snow where a concussion and five months + / - and me even being unaware of ever going to any school or course work was unknown to me due to my extended hospitalization.
I was put on an academic suspension re the dictate of Salliemae during my loss of consciousness. The neat thing is in my loss of consciousness, I crossed over to the other side and have had a love experience of being at heavens gate and drawn into the love that is waiting for us to embrace in our here and now. Only in our now. The program allows the participant to have that same love here, as you have shown to the particular student. Again, kudos to you in ur decision. Most high regards to you dear one for showing the student that love and acceptance powered by ur h p / al anon knowledge put in action, with regard to the untold story of that student. Never before have I known the effects of living in the world is a draw out of or, to the love that awaits us that the program enlightens us to as participants which allows us to open up to the promise of real serenity / love.
Again, regards and prayers to you both / all in the journey to the student's success. I have found nothing but love extended back to me in resolving the issues surrounding my own academic process, to resolve the Salliemae thing / scene as that corporation is deeply involved in student success and / or mortality as to a student's success or potential failure -- due to mis management at whatever level was focused toward me..Heck, I had to leave our saturday night chat due to gunshots outside my home -- to lay on the floor in my own home for my safety. I had to leave our room's chat (irc chat) too lay on my floor for my personal safety immediately re shots fired outside of my home. My home.My education here in al anon taught me me. My education in school has a circle back to discovering me as well. I need to thank all of my teachers as colourful as they have been to my being as colourful as I've been in my educational experience (11.3.07) shots were fired outside my home and I had to stop everything to move to safety. I had to let all else go away to embrace the tool of powerlessness that saved my life in turn.
I did crawl to my cellphone as I turned off the lights behind me as I low crawled to the spot I last saw the phone. We -- as alanon students -- all understand the sense of powerlessness in any given situation out of respect for a need to keep -- our -- serenity serene. One never can ever know another real life's story. You have made the right choice for this powerful teacher student of / to us all re the unknown, yet respected the life choice of this student working with you to complete these incomplete studies, I feel in my heart of hearts (i.m.h.o). Kudos to you all.. n keep the faith, cause that faith is for real.
Warm regards and oceans of love in recovery, getoverit
I have learned alot about manipulation and control. And alot of it is unconcscious. I realize now that I try to influence the outcome. But people do it to us all the time. Good boundaries like what you did seem to help.
