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I said yesterday that I always waited for the other shoe to drop. I came home late tonite from work and hubby and kids were at the fair. I always put my son's Adderall (Amphetamine) up when hubby comes home (works offshore 14 days/home 7 days) as courtesy to him because he is a drug abuser. I got meds out so I could get out some for the weekend and found 12 gone. Only 3 left in bottle. He came home and I confronted him about it and of course he denies it, didn't know it was even here, don't know why I always accuse him (DUH.....HE IS THE DRUG ADDICT!!!) and why is it always him that has to take everything. He has been clean (that I know of) since June. He has no concern for anyone else but himself when it comes to his addiction. I guess noone does. Our son needs this medicine to help him concentrate in school and is not due for a refill until after the first. He takes this medicine 2 x day. I try to trust things he says, but I know that I will only be disappointed in the long run. I guess I had a premonition last night when I said I always wait for the other shoe to drop. Should I put the medicine up when he comes home, or just count it and leave it out. It seems that he will find it anyway. I put my son out a medicine bottle with just enough for the week that hubby is home and put the rest up. I have always tried to be courteous enough not to meds at the house to not "tempt" him, but is this wrong? You would not keep liquor in the house of an alcoholic. This is the one and only thing that I get so discouraged about. The lying and deception of the addict. Not only is it the problems with trust, but the compulsion also. Every time I think things are getting better, the other shoe drops and we are back to square one.
I'd put them up only because your son needs them. Hopefully you can get more and he won't be out. My Dr. told me to make sure my son doesn't stop taking it abruptly. I guess you found out what happens when you leave them out... We aren't supposed to try to control what they do, but considering the meds are needed by your son, I don't think there is a to do or not to do question...you almost have to.
I'm sorry this happened. It must be very dissapointing.
Christy
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I would find a way to lock the drugs away. Perhaps get a small lock box where only you and your son know where it is and have the key. Is it possible that the school nurse can give it to your son in the morning if he takes it at that time? That way you would only need the dose for the weekends and as well at night. I would hate to see your son put in danger because of your husband's addiction. It's hard enough on the children as it is. But if they need medication they shouldn't have to suffer for it because their parent takes it. Sigh.... what a horrible disease this is. Here's hoping you can work something out for your son's meds.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
P.S. Don't waste your time and energy arguing with your A. I learned that lesson the hard way.
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This is why they call it a disease. This grown man, a father, is not stealing his son's medication for fun, just in order to have a good time. You can have compassion for his torment, while still doing what you have to to take care of yourself and your son. It's horrible, but this is how it is.
Inform me on this. I take adderal for add and I had no idea it could be used as a recreational drug. What's it supposed to do? I never thought about hiding them from my ah. My dose is low at this point because they are just now starting me on it. I don't think it does anything for my add personally but I'm giving it a shot.
Usually with my other meds I put them in my purse and put them under my mattress on my side of the bed. It would wake me if he tried to get them.....or....I lock them in my van because he doesn't have a key and wouldn't look there. (or so I think) lol
I am a pharmacist. To someone who does not have ADHD, Adderall and also drugs like Ritalin are like speed for them. I have seen this many times where adults will steal their childs medication. When I see the parents always requesting to fill the drug early, this is the first thing I suspect. I will call the physician if they request an early fill more than 3 times.
There have also been instances where the meds have been stolen from the school by addicts. In these cases we recommend that 2 people be present whenever the med box is accessed.
Karilynn is right, you should keep the meds locked. This is your childs medication, and his schooling will suffer if he doesn't take his medication when he should. I am very emphatic about things when it concerns my child. I will not tolerate my AH depriving my child of her needs.
Cookie
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