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...alcoholism has brought a bus load of other complications with it. I witness amazing strength and courage in you all as shown in your sharings; some of which I have been reading. What an intricate and wonderful tapestry you all weave. No plain sailing and silver spoons here; rather hard determined graft, suffering, tolerance and love.
I have not been siting at my computer all day, I just pop back again and again in between tasks. In the meanwhile I contemplate the stories I read and I am seeing, time and time again, more than one pheonix rising out of so many ashes of despair.
Your sufferings seem to have transformed everyone of you into passionate, determined and deeply caring people.
These are the traits of unquestionable everlasting treasure, which prove to be eternal and enduring as opposed to the transient and tangible treasure so many, in this harshly materialistic world have put so much store by.
The temporal and material treasures of this world do not last, whereas your sufferings are enriching you all by the minute with the kind of treasure that is all enduring, all releasing and everlasting. These are the things I feel are worth fighting for and struggling for and caring and loving and suffering for.
NO ONE can rob you of the kind of treasures that you all possess: love, care, friendship, compassion. These are the treasures that give you worth and integrity and peace and healing.
My heart aches with joy in witnessing such powerful and positive attributes being shared.
I never imagined, when I first stepped foot into this room, that I would find such a priceless group of people as I have found in this broken, wounded, abused family.
Thank you for adopting me into it.
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"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." The Talmund
Heartbroken, we didn't accept you in, you paid your dues, just like the rest of us. I really apperciated your post. I am feeling so very low and it is nice to be reminded that I have a wonderful, understanding family here. You gave me a new perspective on what I feel like (at this moment) is needless, pointless suffering. Thank you.
I embrace (((((you)))))) for I have received many in the last week that I have ventured into this family.
I have learned that nothing is needless and pointless if only we dare to embrace the needlessness and the pointlessness of each experience thereby enabling a better understanding of oneself.
Usually and, depending on our acceptance of it, in my experience it comes as a result of enduring the suffering with a heart that is willing to be touched as well as the will to embrace the pain in order to emerge the stronger, wiser person. (It is over 30, and certainly nearer 40 years since I first encountered needlessness and pointlessness in my life so I have been practicing for a long time.)
I am talking very much in the sense of being 'refined'. God does that refining for me, and time and again I have battled against the trails He has allowed to come my way, only to find that I have actually been blessed because I grow from the experiences.
However, this does seem to require self discipline and the willingness and openness to embrace all experiences - good and bad in order to emerge the victor: though it does not stop me from pleading against what appears to be 'the needless and the pointless' to desist for I am only human and therefore limited in my own strength.
And it does not stop me from reaching out to or needing others to support me in my times of trial, rather it reminds me of the limits of my human frailty [limited in strength and endurance] and very definitely shows me that I am NOT alone - others have walked similar paths and survived.
Hope this makes sense. I still find it hard to be coherent here due to the anxiety and stress I am enduring at this time.
Thank you Serendipity. Written and sent with love.
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"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." The Talmund
