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A Credo of Detachment


A Credo of Detachment
  
by Evelyn Leite

You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep.

Yet each of us is a separate person with his own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs.

I know that when you lash out at me in anger it is because you are in pain.  I will try to have sympathy for that pain.

I will not accept your accusations or blame for those feelings; neither will I take your pain into myself.

I will respect your needs as much as I can while always respecting my own needs.

I will not search for solutions to your problems nor seek to solve your dilemmas... I will take care not to ask you to solve my problems or take the blame for them.  Each of us will maintain his or her own dignity.

I promise to listen to you without judgement, always reserving the right to feel good about myself; I will not allow my character, my looks, or my intelligence to be assassinated, nor will I assassinate your character, looks, or intelligence.

I reserve the right to continue to develop as a person and will not allow you to interfere with this right.

My prayer is for a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship, and to that end I will strive to become what I am capable of being.  I pray that you too will strive to become what you are capable of being.

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Thanks (((((shimo)))))))

That is excellent!

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(((((((((((Shimo))))))))))))))) Awesome!!!!

Thanks!!!

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Thanks for the great  post on detatchment!! it was so good I copy and pasted it so I can print it out and look at it. I will put it in my journal as a reminder.



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(((shimo)))

Thank you for posting that! 



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((((((((((Shimo)))))))))),

Boy did I need that! That goes in my book. Love and blessings to you and your family.

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Thanks for the inspiring post. I am learning more each day how to live and let HP quide me through this journey.

I printed the post to help me deal with it all. I really needed to hear something encouraging to show me that what ive been feeling in my heart is right.

Bless you all
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Wow...great post. Thank you.

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thanks shimo - words to live by in a relationship

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shimo wrote:
A Credo of Detachment

  

by Evelyn Leite


You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep.

Yet each of us is a separate person with his own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs.

I know that when you lash out at me in anger it is because you are in pain.  I will try to have sympathy for that pain.

I will not accept your accusations or blame for those feelings; neither will I take your pain into myself.

I will respect your needs as much as I can while always respecting my own needs.

I will not search for solutions to your problems nor seek to solve your dilemmas... I will take care not to ask you to solve my problems or take the blame for them.  Each of us will maintain his or her own dignity.

I promise to listen to you without judgement, always reserving the right to feel good about myself; I will not allow my character, my looks, or my intelligence to be assassinated, nor will I assassinate your character, looks, or intelligence.

I reserve the right to continue to develop as a person and will not allow you to interfere with this right.

My prayer is for a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship, and to that end I will strive to become what I am capable of being.  I pray that you too will strive to become what you are capable of being.


 



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Welcome Sue L to MIP!! Thank for the repost it is a lovely reminder!

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Thank you

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