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Here I am back registered once more after many months absence. I cancelled my membership, but have continued to check back in over the months. Many of the familiar names still post; many I used to see are gone. Without explaining my departure, may I just say that I need a forum. My story is a son who is an A. He lost his wife, his child, his beautiful home, and to a degree his parents...my husband and I. I am grieved over his inability to stop drinking. He tries, succeeds for awhile, and back to it. His ex never gave him even ONE chance; she just kicked him to the curb when she had enough on her plate. She is lucky to be professional, have an excellent income, and background to remove him from his son. Even THO he never once did his child any harm. My son the A goes to work every day. He comes to visit daily his son at our home. I try to maintain a good relationship with his ex and with him. Unfortunately, all has fallen apart. We have had bitter words and my heart is broken. I may never see my precious two year old grandbaby again. The ex is taking out the venom she feels for my son on us. With all that said, I am also at the end of nine months of cancer diagnosis and treatment. I have been through hell with chemo which nearly killed me, surgery to remove the tumor in my leg, and then six weeks of radiation. Through it all I have tried to remain loyal to my son, his ex, and the baby. Tried to continue to do things for them, help them out, keep the child almost daily for some period of time. All this through hospital stays, weakness, etc. I sound like some kind of martyred nutcase, but not really. I just love my family and my husband has helped. Unfortunately, I am here tonight with no where else to turn. I am heartbroken. I will have to seek personal counseling I think as I may lose my mind if I don't have someone to talk to. My husband is supportive to the nth but he can take only so much more. Being a caregiver to someone as sick as I have been and still try to handle our family situation has been almost too much for him. My prognosis is not the greatest altho I am told "they got it all", etc. I know the details of sarcoma and I know I will probably have a reoccurrence down the line. I don't want to die with my son where he is now. Please pray for me, all of you. I need help.
Heartfelt prayers for you, Omajoy. You have been through a lot, yes. So glad you found the strength to carry on and glad you came back here. I understand about loading up the hub with your sorrows. Counseling did help me with that. Best of health to you. mspw
It's good to see you back. I only wish you would have allowed our support throughout your harrowing ordeal, although I'm sure you had your reasons. A person can only do what they can do. In any case, we're here for you. Welcome back.
Christy
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I don't neccessarily have any advice to give, but I wanted to give you a pat on the back. You have been through an extremely difficult time in your life and you should stop for a moment to realize your strength, courage, and loyalty! I pray for you to have the strength to continue on and that your family works through thier difficulties. I read a phenomenal book called The Journey. It is written by Brandon Bays. It is not an Al-Anon book, but still very awesome. You may find it useful to you in helping to cleanse yourself emotionally and physically.
What a burden you have. So many are going thru so much. Aren't there grandparents rights? I know that Alanon has given me the tools to handle all that has come my way. I would not have made it this far without them.
Welcome back. I am sorry you have gone through so much alone. Remember as long as you have your Alanon family, you are never alone. Sending you prayers for a speedy recovery. Keep coming back to us. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Hello Oma , speedy recovery is what I wish for you. The body is an amazing thing I watched my husb go from totally beaten down by cancer and alcoholism and recover from both , there is always hope ,don't give up . Please dont be too critical of your sons wife , unless u have been married to an A u cannot possibly understand the pressure and crazieness she has been thru , your relationship with your son is diff , tho devestating I know. Sometimes we simply cannot do it any more. I assume u are not attending Al-Anon for yourself , it would help u alot and u will meet people who have been where your at and will share what worked for them , u need support from people who understand and accept unconditionally. This board is great but u are missing so much by not attending f2f meetings I hope u will consider doing so in the near future. Do it for you . Will pray for your son and hope he finds his miracle .
