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Nine years ago today I married my AH. The divorce should be final in about a month..... so instead of thinking about all the bad things - or putting on rose colored glasses and looking back at the beginning, I decided to tell the kids we'd celebrate our family here today. I think I read in a post here that someone had decided to celebrate their family on their anniversary, since the family began with the wedding.
The kids and I had a nice afternoon, a quick dinner and a cake that said Happy Family Day.
Even with all that's gone on over the past 9 years, if I had it all to do over again, I'd still marry him. Because of that marriage, I have the incredible good fortune to be "mommy" to three of the, in my opinion, most amazing, lovable spirits HP has put upon this earth. And AH played a part in their creation.
I woke up this morning in my twin bed sandwiched between by 6 year old and 4 year old, with my 8 year old sleeping soundly across the hall. And you know what? I can't imagine my life without them. HP blessed me with both my marriage and children...
What a great idea! Happy Family Day to you and yours. I've thought often that my kids have kept me wanting to keep trying and living. In the midst or all the chaos of our marriage life is intertwined all the joys (ok, some exhaustion, & frustrations too) of all the memories the children have brought to our lives. I am a better person because I am a parent!! Glad you are celebrating and making new traditions. happy hugs from ddub
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Wow did I need to read this post. My Ah went to rehab and has been home for month. Well tonight has been awful. He went out again and got so drunk. So this reminds me of what my life was like before he left. I don't want it. We will be married 9 years in October. Reading your post makes me realize that without this marriage I would not have 3 kids. They are my strength right now. Thankyou and good luc to you
