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What the hell is wrong with him???? (the ah) I just found out he borrowed $400 from his father to get his truck fixed but............he used that excuse to only give me a portion of the paycheck. So he had a ton of money and left me and the kids with hardly nothing. I got him in a huge lie. He said "I didn't lie"........he just didn't tell me. I'm sorry but if you are married aren't you supposed to run stuff like this by your wife? Then.............he applied for a credit card to get his teeth fixed! I know he needs them fixed however.....I need things too but I am not putting my credit out there just in case we need it. I think he thinks he's not married. Even though he is sober *maybe, maybe not* he still lies and I can't help but to resort back to old feelings and hate him. Who does he think he is?? That just makes me want to hoard money and lie myself. Thanks for letting me put this out there. Paybacks are a b****!
Its very annoying when they start spinning crap. It does want to make you get down to their level. I have been honest with my friends about the lies as it got so out of hand financially. The department of agriculture, taxes everything all up in heap for nothing really, Like you I did not get told lies all the time, just someone neglected to put in the pieces that made up the story. My thoughts are with you,
Hi I completely understand your frustration. My A/DA H was pretty good at the money game for quite a while. He always had some detailed reasons for his expenditures. I started catching on and managed to somehow take all the financial duties and responisibilities away from him... it was almost too late. He had opened credit cards in both our names without my knowledge. He took out personal loans all over town. He borrowed money from his IRA without telling me (which we had to pay a lot of taxes for). He also borrowed money from friends and family members. I had to almost get down to his level in order to save out some money for the bills and house payment. I had to steal and hide his credit cards. I had to hide my purse from him. I ended up opening a new separate checking account for the bills, one that he couldn't access and didn't even know about. I'm glad I did.
Anyway, just be very careful, keep your eyes open, and maybe start writing things down as they happen. Might want to save out some money for yourself.. just in case. You need to take care of you and your children above all else.
Artygirl
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