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I don't want to keep singing the same song so decided to ask if I am mixed up again. It is so hard to keep your mind straight. I am doing so much better not reacting or not trying to fix other family members dilemas so everything is controlled by me. I am working hard at having no expectations except I thought a little something would happen rather than nothing as far as my A wanting to hang out with me. So independent, so unaware, so uninvolved with family. I am detached from the yucky stuff but there is nothing else. Being detached and lonely with nothing to speak of for any kind of relationship between us verbally, physically, emotionally......................... I am just shutting down and wanting to bring up, let's do something to reconnect to strengthen/save our marriage. Is that just me singing the same old song again and again.......... thks for your ESH. ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
sometimes we do recycle what we do or say. choose your words carefully. i have found with my AHsober that certain words like "marriage' "relationshiop" make him go ballistic. good luck
If you're not sure, maybe now is not the time to bring it up. You don't have to do anything right now. Maybe if you pray or meditate on it for a bit it would help.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown