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Fifi


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As I read I am not always aware of the vocabulary in Alanon as I am relatively new...my question for the day .....what is meant by calling our A's our qualifier?

If that was the only question I actually had what an easy day this would be....I have so many....like why can't I sleep? Why does this feel like post traumatic stress? why do I dread going to town and bumping into my ex and his AA gang? why do the negative thoughts about all that I have lost in the past few years keep coming back even when I ask them to go over and over? ugh, I am barely faking it till I make it......

Off to the fair with the kids......maybe a pony ride and cotton candy will fix things :)

Have a good weekend everyone....late summer is gorgeous.

Fifi

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Christy


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Fifi

If you are a friend or family of an alcoholic/addict it "qualifies" you to join Alanon.
In this case "qualifies" means you are "eligible"..

So, whomever the person is in your life that has an addiction is your qualifier"

Christy

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(((((((((Fifi))))))))))),

Now if only I could answer the rest of your questions, life would be good (Maria smiles with you).  Just keep coming hon, some of those concerns will go away and the rest of them will work themselves out one way or the other.  You can have serenity and in the meantime, I am so glad you are taking your kids to the fair.

Hope you have a wonderful time!!!!!

yours in recovery,
Maria

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Hi Fifi,

All I can say is that I completely undertand the awful feelings you are experiencing. Ugh! My counselor recommended a book to me - "After the Affair" by Janis Abrahams Spring - that I found helpful. It validated my emotions and made me see I was "normal" after all. I actually just started reading it again this morning.

It's not fun nor is it fair, but we gotta just keep on goin' and hope that it can only get better from here. You are not alone.

Blessings,
Lou

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