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My current landlord may have a place I can stay with me and my dogs. Getting there would be an incredible feat. The A is totally bankruptc physically and spiritually. He is at a bottom he has never been at before. I sometimes feel like I'm caryring a dead horse. At other times I feel all the dependency on him slpping away. I have learned how strong I am in dealing with these crises. He just falls apart and acts out and makes everyting worse then retreats into a cave. He has no active problem solving skills. He can reteats into a cave or lash out or act out.
If I can get this place there will be no more fear. The truck can go, he can go. I can manage. Please pray that it comes through. Of course it wont' be a picnic because the A would be around temporarily. I have absolutely no doubt he's going to lose his license which is a given as he has so many tickets and now a criminal case for driving away from a a scene of an accident. Of course he will never ever admit that he was out of his mind on drugs with the homeless couple.
The issue for me is that I can manage. I can keep my dogs which means everything everything everything in the world for me. I'll work 2 jobs to keep them. Obviously I can't work 2 jobs to keep the A out of jail he's done that to himself.
So please pray that would be so helpful for me and it would be the answer to my prayers of years of racking my brain working out how I can keep my dogs. The truck is replaceable my dogs aren't.
I hope things work out for you and I hope you have the strength to not let him come and stay with you. I know you care about him and you are very vulnerable. I know it's easy for me to say being an outsider looking in, but remember I was there. I believe things will come to you when your HP see's that you are taking care of yourself first. Good luck girl.
Mareise, im thinking of you and praying for you, i know how much the dogs mean to you cos i have two baby girls myself.......they are jack russells.........jackie and jess. Everything will work out for you i always believe that no matter how painful a situation we are in...and believe me im in a painful one myself right now, our hp has us exactly where we are meant to be. My A my brother is fighting for his life in hospital right now, he fell asleep drunk and set his home and self on fire. no home left but thank god seems brother is being given a second chance, please pray for us too my name is helen and his is paul xxxxxxxxx
Keep the dogs let go of the A and I promise your life will get smoother! I am so glad you found a place where you can be with the dogs! What a relief. I sent mine up for you and hope it comes through. Do you see the destiny here? The fact that you had to live in that hellish place to have that landlord who could get you into the right place for you? Seems like destiny to me. As for the A, don't let him be a dead horse on your back, set it down and carry yourself! I have heard you say incredible feat before but somehow it always happens, you make it happen. Let that A of yours live his life and suffer his own consequences! When you do the right thing good things happen for you.
