The woman who is codependent in my household came home last night and left me a cryptic note. I expected it so I am not taking it personally. I guess I am having to look at some of my own behavior in her. One of my key traits is to overextend myself then feel sorry for myself, then lash out. She does that.

I know that I can't keep on doing that. So how do I stop overextending myself. That will be so so key.

She is two weeks into having a friend stay which much be an incredible burden because she is already stressed. The friend, who I like, has all kinds of excuses why she can't get a regular job. Ironically I met the friend when I was at one of my own minimum wage jobs. I left that job to get a better job The friend just left...

I've been in that bind so many times with the A not being able to say No then getting hugely resentful over not being able to say No.

Of course I am not going to share all this insight with my housemate. She is lashing out at me after all. I set my boundaries up pretty high. At the same time she has few resources to let out her feelings. When I am being the saint martyr I set myself up like that so many times. Then I was the bitch.

Of course the A never ever acknowledged I was set up but there is only one way with him, have no needs and be the mummy he never had.

Maresie.