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nycbt


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My husband has hep c, which has caused him to not be interested in me sexual. It is very hard to deal with that. I have a started to talk to another guy and give him interst by flirting with him, but not have sex with him. I like the attention the guy is giving me. My husband has told me that it is not me or my weight gain, since I have put on weight. We have been able to stay together because we do spend alot of time together, and hold hands, and sleep in the same bed. But I miss the sex part of the marriage.



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I am so glad to see you posting again.

Does he know Hep.C is not transferred that easily to their partner from relations?

However I would be concerned about my loved one too. Also intimacy can be shown so many other ways.

Sadly to flirt and feel need for attention, and enjoying it, may be asking for something you may not want. If we are starved for something, to have it right there... yikes. I sure do relate though.

But is it the physical act you need from your husband? And if so would another person make ya feel better or worse?

I always play reversies. If it were my mate, and he was getting attention elsewhere, simple flirtation or whatever would hurt me horribly.

You know the saying to think about the act, we have already commited in in our heart.

Sounds like you really are in love with your husband. If it were me, I would suggest or do "other things."

Really am glad you wrote. i sure know the longing for the one I love.

I hope things change for you so you feel more complete and serene.

love and hugs,debilyn

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((((NY))))),

Sorry you are going through this.  It is not unusual for a recovering addict not to have a sex drive.  I missed that part of my marriage.  But I found contentment in the fact that he was sober and it eventually passed.  I was content to snuggle.  For me, having him sober and alive was and is far better than having him active again. 

Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
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(((nycbt)))

Sending you lots of hugs and support. I too miss your post and have wondered how you have been doing.

I wish I had some wisdom for you -- just know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Luna

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