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Hard to believe it was a year ago that hubby was still drinking. A year ago I sent him packing because I could no longer live with an active alcoholic. It wasn't easy. I love my husband so much. But I was determined not to let him back until he had at least 90 days recovery under his belt. I wasn't sure if that was going to happen. But I knew I couldn't live with the chaos and destruction of this disease any longer. It was through the strength of this program and my Alanon family here, that gave me the courage to change.
That night he packed his bags and left I was hurting so bad. But I came into the chat room, and you all supported me. You supported me when 2 weeks later he was taken to the ICU and then back to the ICU again. I can remember being so scared. I was prepaing myself to say goodbye. When I changed my mind to bring him home and let him stay, you didn't judge me. You supported me as you always have.
Well here we are 1 year later and he has his sobriety. He's worked hard at it. I am so proud of him. He has been out hunting and fishing, spent time w/the kids and grandkids, and my nieces. He has helped others find their way to recovery. We don't talk much about his anniversary date (5/20) because he reminds me, he can get cocky about it. That's when he could relapse. So while he is aware of the month, he refuses to take it for granted. He is ready to get back to a meeting, once he's on crutches. I did order a medallion box that he had wanted as a token for this year. But I did not have the date put on it. We know when it was. We look back, but mainly we look foward.
I have continued to work my program. I won't lie to you, there have been some rocky times. The dynamics of a sober marriage vs. an active one is very different. That's why I strongly urge all of you to work your program even when the A is in recovery.
Hubby is recovering from his foot surgery. It was a comedy of errors getting him home from the hospital. Senior resident didn't order his pain meds to take home, they delievered his walker to someone else (he's 6'5"), medivan went to the wrong hospital. Then one of the nurses who does his pin cleaning hit our car in our parking space and did $1500 worth of damage! Oh brother! I can laugh at it now, but I wasn't before. He still hasn't tried taking Pipers Kitty and himself for a ride donw the hill in a wheelchair. I don't want to know if he does!
This program has helped me so much. Through the good, the bad, the ugly, the goofy, you have all shown us great love and support. To all of you who think your recovery or even your loved ones recovery is not possible. One never knows. Life is a journey. EXPECT MIRACLES FROM YOURSELF. Expect miracles. I take this program everywhere I go. Don't leave home without it. Remember, the sun is always shining somewhere.
From the bottom of my heart, thanks to all of you for your love, support, prayers and laughter. Who would have thought I would be in this spot a year later? Not I. I love you all dearly.
Love and much blessings to you and your families and all the MIP animals.
Live strong, Karilynn, Hubby and Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Sending you all big ((((((hugs))))). I'm so thrilled that both of you have made it a year in recovery. What an awesome miracle, thank you for sharing your support and ESand H on this board. Your journey and your experiences have helped me and many of us still struggling with the active A. You and your husband are living proof that miracles and recovery are possible, what great hope that brings. Here's to another day and another year.
Peace to you,Pipers Kitty, and hubby, Twinmom~
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"The people who don't mind matter and the people who mind, don't matter". (Dr. Seuss)
In many ways, it does seem like just yesterday you were here for meetings and was growing in leaps and bounds (and still are).
I am so happy for you and for your hubby. Sounds like he's working his program real hard too realizing that he can't get too cocky about his sobriety. Way to go Kari's hubby.
What a difference a day makes, never mind a year.
Much love and congratulations to you for your recovery and I am so glad you keep coming, encouraging others, sharing your ESH and being a part of our fellowship.
Live strong Sweet Lady, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Thanks so much for sharing your recovery, Hubby's recovery - the wonderful story of your marriage's recovery with us - It is a precious gift that I truly cherish.
Peace, Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
He has been out hunting and fishing, spent time w/the kids and grandkids, and my nieces. He has helped others find their way to recovery. We don't talk much about his anniversary date (5/20) because he reminds me, he can get cocky about it. That's when he could relapse. So while he is aware of the month, he refuses to take it for granted. He is ready to get back to a meeting, once he's on crutches. I did order a medallion box that he had wanted as a token for this year. But I did not have the date put on it. We know when it was. We look back, but mainly we look foward.
