The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
At present A is living with me after being ill in January, no he has not moved back home yet. My eldest son is coming home in two weeks from college and he will probably, hopefully move back home to his own place then which is in an awful state, no I have not gone there and cleaned it up. I have a lot of work at present but when I go home from work, I have no choice over what to watch on tv until he goes to pub, and the distressing stuff he like to watch, murder programmes etc are depressing, last night I took myself out and am in good form today, tonight I am doing a quiz in aid of cancer so that will stop me feeling depressed with the tv menu. When he is out himself he manages to be the life and soul of the party but at home, my home he is a pain in the ass, it helps just to let me vent,
Oh how I know Jeckle and Hyde real well. Isnt it amazing when they are with their drinking cronies how they are in such a great mood, yet when they step one foot in the door it all changes, and in a split second. I can recall one of many incidents when my A was living here, in the middle of him verbally abusing me, yelling screaming, etc...then the phone rang it was one of his so called buddies, and almost like someone turned a switch on and off, he changed into a happy go lucky guy! This is how alcoholism is, incidious, baffling and cunning. No sense trying to figure it out, as it will drive you crazy! Keep the focus on you and your needs, and detach from the A and his behaviours.
Oh yes, I remember those phone calls - raving raging drunk one moment, sweet and funny the next. And then back again, as soon as the phone is hung up.....
