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I am having trouble with enabling behavior and taking care of myself. Beside the AH in my life. I have dad that needs 24/7 care and grandmother. It is so hard to have time for myself.
Ending enabling starts with setting boundries. If you want to stop being taken advantage of, start being busy. That means start taking care of yourself. You can find ways to take care of yourself by looking at how you've neglected yourself. Have you had a physical recently? Have you gone to the dentist recently? What about getting a manicure? When you start taking care of yourself physically, you'll start taking care of yourself emotionally, too.
I had a massage last week! It was awesome. I'm having a manicure tomorrow and am paying someone to clean my house. If you knew you were going to die next year, what would you do today?
Whew, time for yourself. At the end of Alanon meetings they say "it works if you work it because you are worth it". Focus on yourself. With my first baby I learned the hard way. I took care of him and my responsibilities first and myself second. When he was 9 months old I was exhausted and angry. With my second baby, I took care of myself first (sleep, eating, exercise) and I was better able to care for him. Hope this helps.
((sissy)) if your caring for others, (elders) by yourself.... i just want to say that there is additional help. There are volunteers, ifnot family members, that can sit with your loved ones, help with bathing and some general cleaning, pick up groceries. someone to look after them while *You get some rest and eat a good meal. Your health is actually more important at this time because of the emotional and physical rundown your internal being is going through. But you can do it, and you can do it with some help tooooo if your willing to do a bit of investigation into how.
I am positive that there is a bit of help....to help YOU take good care of your loved ones. (and in that, you will be taking care of yourself. ) please consider to contact the 800 toll free number or if possible the local area number for visiting nurses association. if they are not the ones to assist in your area.... please contact a local gov., offices like medicare/medicaid and ask for some guidance and options....
there may be ways to see if ** your family member/s qualify for some outside care/help. someone to come in and check on them and sit with them so you can get a break.
i took care of my mother till she passed away (not very long ago) but without help from others i am sure i would of been in the hospital myself. i'm soooo thankfullll today for the support i received.
I accepted es&h from others here and made a point to take time to sing some songs, outloud LOL... to get a manicure or take a walk in the park, get away from time to time to help keep my prospective. loved a hot bubble bath and some uninterrupted sleep. and it helped my overall dispositon. its soooo important. *for your health.
your in my prayers and in my thoughts!! keep lookinguP:) andlet HP/God take some of this off your shoulders by doing some breathing exercises in a quiet room for atleast 5-7 minutes ( when you can) tbhis will also help tremendiously . i am very proud of you!
take what you like and leave the rest
((((((Sissy)))))) so glad your here keep coming back!
do you have some reading materials for alanon? please try to do this tooo . reading is always helpful., especailly the daily readers., one day at a time and courage to change.
I have scheduled a massage, maincure and eyebrow wax for tommorrow. I am going to try to get to an al-non meeting soon. Part of my needing to take care of myself is coming from my 18 old nephew /son that O.D. on mother's day last year and passed away. Brithday is the 28th of April. I can not image them two days.
