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hi everyone,sorry i havent posted in awhile but as you all know i left my AH AND MOVED FROM FLORIDA BACK TO NY..but im doing good..AH is in rehab in florida and doing very well..he is going to church and doing meetings,and doing what he has to do.where he is they have a 3 step program..the first step is like a halfway house,where he has to have someone from the home go with him wherever he goes,the second step,he moves into a home with another long term aaer and he has to rent a room from him and work his progam they also help him in finding a parttime job.the last step they help him find a fulltime job and he moves into his own apartment.he still has to work the program..as for the dui, he got no jailtime but he got probation,50 hours community service,he has to go to a alcohol and drug class 4 times a week,and he must provide proof that he is doing all this plus he will have random hair,blood,and pee test without notice...i went back to florida march 9 and just got back from there march28..i had to go back to put my house up for sale.and talk with my AH..AND I DID ALOT OF SOUL SEACHING ON MYSELF,and to my amasment i realized that alot of the things my AH WAS SAYING WAS RIGHT about my daughter..since we got back here to ny i have been watching my grandkids non stop,and running her everywhere,i have been sick with a kidney infection and only have 75% function of my left kidney at the time{this was found out while i was in florida,they wanted to admit me down there but i said no cause my daughter needed me back here in ny to babysit..i got back here friday morning and i went 72 hours with out sleep cause my granddaughter was sick,and my daughter needed me to watch her and my grandson so she could sleep..so alot of what my AH WAS SAYING WAS TRUE.and i never wanted to see it..im moving back to florida,but not moving in with my AH not until he is done with his program and that could take up to a year.im going to be living with my mother in law,i realized i still love him with all my heart,but we have a long road to go to make it work,and i told him if we get back together that im coming back to ny to be with my family and grandkids in the summer and he said that is ok,you need to be with your family,and he said stay there as long as you need to before coming back here..this is a huge change for him,he is almost back to the man i fell madly inlove with 9 years ago.and me leaving him like i did made him hit rock bottom real hard and he said that was the best thing i ever did,cause it made him face up to things.he has finally addmitted that he was being the way his dad was and he never admitted that before never,i heard from a family member that the only reason my daughter wanted me to move back to ny with her and her family was so i could babysit and pay all the bills to live with them{but they still dont have a place to live they r going from one family member to another,me im staying either with my friend or my son,,so when i can im moving back to florida.....i have been praying alot to my HP AND I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO HIM WHEN WE WERE ON our WAY HERE BACK IN JAN, WITH MY SON IN LAWS TRUCK ALWAYS BREAKING DOWN ON THE WAY UP..WHEN I LEFT FLORIDA LAST THURSDAY I WAS CRYING AND I PRAYED TO MY HP TO GIVE ME A SIGN IF I WAS TO MOVE BACK TO FLORIDA {I HAVE A 06 VIBE}AND AT THAT TIME MY CAR DIED ALL THE LIGHTS WENT OUT AND STOPPED RUNNING I PULLED OVER AND STARTED THE CAR AGAIN AND IT STARTED, and hasnt done it againSO THAT WAS MY SIGN FROM HIM THAT IM TO BE WITH MY AH...........SORRY THIS WAS SO LONG BUT I HAD SOME CATCHING UP TODO and im starting al-alon tomorrow and im going to contiue going thanks everyone
Easy does it sweet heart. One of the hardest things for me to learn was that--I grimace as I say this--some of the things my parents say are COMPLETELY LEGIT. Where I run into problems is that because my parents are the ones saying it, I discount it. Somehow it doesn't count because my parents are the ones saying it. Think of it this way: when you pan for gold, after seeing dirt and crap for so long, after awhile, you inherently miss the specks that sparkle.
Easy does it sweet heart. One of the hardest things for me to learn was that--I grimace as I say this--some of the things my parents say are COMPLETELY LEGIT. Where I run into problems is that because my parents are the ones saying it, I discount it. Somehow it doesn't count because my parents are the ones saying it. Think of it this way: when you pan for gold, after seeing dirt and crap for so long, after awhile, you inherently miss the specks that sparkle.
Awesome! Sure sounds like HP had a hand in that! It sure can be a long, rough road, but when you are sure that is what you want, it all works out in the end. I am back with the A for the umpteenth time, and am very happy that I made that choice. He hasn't touched alcohol in any way since last Sept., and things are going so well... That doesn't mean that he won't buy a bottle today, all I can do about that is pray. I wonder if the wondering will ever go away? But, he is the only man for me, and we are very happy 98% of the time. Best of luck to you, with love, TLC
Glad you are back. Easy does it . Just like A's need a year program to work their lives out, I believe we do also. Take this opportunity to be good to you, work on you, build yourself up to the person you want to be.
Keep coming, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
. Just like A's need a year program to work their lives out, I believe we do also. Take this opportunity to be good to you, work on you, build yourself up to the person you want to be.