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Friendofyours


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My house is up for bids at the courthouse, we borrowed the money from my FIL and went down and paid that foreclosure. But it didn't stop the vulchers from parking in front of my house taking pictures so they can pounce on it if it did go on the market. Mind you, I have children.
So then we came up with the idea that bankruptsy would be best. NOPE....He owes too much so they want to quick claim the house in my name..........ummmmm....my credit is clean so why am I going to take a blow? I guess to save this house. OMG the life still is chaotic even with a soberA. So just in this week I have to find the bankruptsy attorney, an estate attorney and a family support attorney to get his childsupport from a drunken one night stand taken down. $1200 a month for a drunk night which produced a child (that we have never seen)
This is when being with an A is hard. Seems like YOU have to be the one that cleans up the mess. We can't sell. There are 6 houses on our street for sale. We are 9 payments behind due to a preditory lender. OMG when does it stop? Retirement? Death?

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evey


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Wow, that is a bad week.

I would insist on a paternity test if there has not been one. My daughter's friend (a boy) had a one night-the girl claimed it was his "for sure"-dna confirmed it was not his-just a thought.

Focus on you and your children's needs. You need a place to live. Breath and take it one step at a time. Let your AH tap into whatever resources he has left(401k,whole life insurance) to bail out of the 9 payments, if it is there moneywise.

I have financial trouble and I map it out by need. Need: housing, gas and electric, phone, food, gas for car.Living with an ah, and worse, being financially dependent on one,is very difficult but I have found that when I focus on my needs, not his, I am able to make ends meet and stay sane.

Keep your chin up.

evey









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Friendofyours


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We had the paternity back six years ago the child is his. We are living on bare minimum. I just went without ac for close to a year because we could not afford it. It's florida so you KNOW that's bare minimum! lol. I'm calling around today to see how we can save the house. It's not just me, the people in my county are losing their homes too. There are a bunch of us. We live on a Cape and they have ungodly rules and regulations and they keep adding things that YOU have to pay for. They add up in the thousands. Like water that's actually garbage water. We don't even use it and we have to pay $10,000 for it. If we could sell we would and get the hell out of here. The home owner here is becoming extinct. :( Happy families are right behind them :(

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twinmom2


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(((FOY)))

Gosh I'm sorry you have to go through this.  How scary.  I'm right there with ya though I'm about a paycheck away from homeless like the majority of us struggling families.  Do what you can and don't forget to breathe girl.  smile
I will put you on my prayer list for HP to take authority over this matter for you. Try and have a relaxing weekend even if its just an hour to nap or do something fun with the kids.

Peace,
Twinmom~

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((OHHH NOOO!!!!)) Oh Honey!! Oh that's terrible! I hope you can feel me reaching the 1,000 miles and givign you a HUGE OL HUG because I AM SO SORRY you are going through this. OMG. I want you to know that I understand how much pain you are going through, and I am SO SO SORRY.
Is there any way maybe y'all--y'all being you and some friends, you and the kids, or even just you and God--could get to the beach? I do my best thinking in nature and (OH has no beaches really) but is there a special place where you would feel safe thinking for a few hours? Or just a safe place where you can clear your head? When I was a little girl, I would hide in my closet and journal, JUST to think! Today I do it in my kitchen (where better to think than where food is? ;) )
((((HONEY!!!! OH NO!!!!))) PLEASE, do talk to an atty and sort out what can be done. And NO PANIKING YET. We will be here. And when it comes time to panic, we will panic with you! (Or, I will at least....)

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