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I recently found out Iam pregnant. Ive been married for one year now and the marriage has been both wonderful and challenging. My husband is addicted to pot. Now, I am worried about bringing a baby into this situation. I am feeling sick to my stomach every time I smell the pot smoke now. I worry that my husband wont be responsible and that his first priority will be the addiction (as it has always been). I don't want to divorce him or raise a child as a single parent either, though. I feel sort of trapped in this situation. Meanwhile, my husband is trying to limit my physical activity and put all these limitations on what I am allowed to do. He wants me to quit the activity that I love doing the most. I keep telling him how important it is for women to be active during their pregnancy. I also am letting him know how worried I am about his smoking. I don't think he will quit, though. I am excited about this new path in my life, though. Nervous and very excited!
I take it by your post the pregnancy was an accident since your worried about bringing a baby into a marriage with an addict right? All you can do now is inform yourself and plan for the safety of your unborn child. As with any addiction an addict does NOT quit just because you've become pg. My alcoholic husband drank more when children were introduced, that's how I found out that drinking was an issue. It has been a rough ride! Find a support group and never leave your child alone with him. I hope you and him find the help you need. Good luck
Every time you take a breath of the pot smoke you are sending it to your baby. That is abuse.
I am not one to pussyfoot around this issue. It is illegal also, if he has it, and you are there with your baby, you would both be arrested and your baby taken to foster care.
To me, we as parents, are to protect our baby in utero and out. He is already destroying his child by using around it. He is disrespecting you by using around you.
As far as telling you what to do, he is trying to control you. YES we need to be active during pregnancy. I was walking miles, riding my bike with my other baby in the child seat.
If you don't keep active, your labor will be so much harder.
You are worried he won't be responsible? How responsible is it to have an illegal substance, and be smoking in front of his pregnant wife???
do you have face to face there? You may want to go to meetings.
I hope you do not quit what you love.
HOn I cannot help but feel super protective of you. My daughter got pg, the father was horrible after the baby was born. He was jealous and mean and even pushed her down when she was holding the baby.
She had to move away and get an r order on him. With a mom like me and a brother like she has, this A is fortunate he can still walk.
But becuz of alanon, he can.
Do you have family? i can tell you they usually get worse when your attention goes towards something else, I mean away from your a. Their priority is always using.
I believe it is totally normal for others around you to be very apprehensive for you. It is hard to hold back what we have experienced and seen.
But this is your life, you will learn your own lessons. It just makes me so sad to know a life is developing under these conditions.
Congratulations on your wonderful news. A Baby, what a special blessing.
Have you been to the Dr yet? Ask your Dr about your physical activity. Different woman, different pregnancies, different risk, different needs at different weeks of the pregnancy.
Just like a program of recovery - you may need to find out what you need to do for You. What best works for You.
Never forget You have choices, options & the right to make the decisions on what is best for you & your baby. It is about what is healthy for the both of you right now.
Congratulations again - looking forward to hearing all the wonderful news & updates as you progress thru the weeks of pregnancy!! The fun of selecting names, choosing colors for decorating, picking up cute outfits - yeah - Can you tell I'm a grandma - 5 times with one more on the way!!
Rita a.k.a. - ReeRee to the grandkids
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