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A called me at work this afternoon. He called and said: " I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate you and all you do. I don't say it often enough, but I do." Oh he prefaced this by saying, "I'm not drinking." (He's been sober 10 months now, and I honestly didn't even think about it! lol)
Now my hubby is not the most romantic soul in the world, but then neither I am. However when he said that, tears welled in my eyes. It was better than hearing "I love you." which he does tell me. I know he appreciates me, I know he loves me. But for some reason, it was the nicest thing to hear. How lucky am I to have a sober hubby, and reasonably healthy one, and one who just wanted to let me know? I don't take anything for granted when it comes to him. I am truly blessed to have him in my life.
When he spoke these simple words to me today, it made me think that maybe we don't always need the "I love you, I want you, I worship the ground you walk on type of statements." Don't get me wrong, they are nice to hear. But this has meant more to me than any of those things. Maybe by telling someone regardless of their relationship to us that they are appreciated can do more for one's well being than we realize. I have this warm fuzzy feeling (and it's not from Pipers Kitty laying on top of my head!) that has been with me all day. My boss told me that she appreciates all the hard work I have been doing during my review last week. It held more meaning than saying "nice job". I won't lie to you, the raise was nice too! But it was sooo nice to hear that I;m not being taken for granted at work.
Here's my point: look around at the people in your life. However much they mean to you, tell them. If they've done something as simple as cleaning your house, let them know that it means something to you. If you A has a really good moment with you, take the time to tell them that in this time and place how special it is. Life is too short not to let people know you care about them.
So dearest family: I APPRECIATE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU! I LOVE EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU. I AM SO GREATFUL FOR ALL OF YOU!
Love and blessings to you all.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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That was a wonderful post, kari. What a gift your hubby has given you, better than cards, flowers, candy even! In my situation, I would give anything to hear those words from my husband. I hear them from people at work sometimes, from friends, and sometimes from my MIP family members. Just a couple of words of acknowledgement, and I can move mountains! Thanks for the reminder. Love in Recovery, Becky1
Karilynn I loved your share, and I am so happy this happened with you and your A. You are kind, gentle, and devoted with a heart as warm as toast. You deserve to be treated in kind. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes too; tears of joy for your happiness. I send all warm wishes to you, Pipers Kitty and A. You are always in my thoughts.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I know that hubby of yours has had lots of hugs sent from me (as mine has from you)...but give him one whopper of another one for me. This time include a big smackeroo too. MWAH!! Tell him I appreciate... that he appreciates.. Cuz that means he's appreciating life too.
Love ya girl Christy
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Thank you so much for sharing that. I am not the most romantic type either, but I will remember that story forever. Hopefully I will take the example you have shared.
When I do I will remember you guys.
Take care of you!
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Yea! Nice reminder. It has been a rough week at work with nothing going right. Out of the blue I got an e-mail from a former student saying how much he appreciated what I said. Now it is time for me to pass it on.
I am so happy that your husband is so sweet and said that to you! Isn't that so true, you don't have to hear the storybook things that everyone thinks they should hear. It is the spontaneous, wonderful, unique things that come when we least expect them that mean the most. You DO deserve to hear that from him and it shows that he is growing in recovery also and knows that you need to hear something like that every once in a while.
I have come to realize that my AH sober is not the most affectionate person, and that I cannot change that. BUT he is affectionate in his own way, cuddles me at night all night, and tells me at times sweet things that I don't expect. It is so nice. I used to beg to be told he loved me, and he was sick of it I could tell. Now with the help of this program and self-love and a little bit of self-esteem, I don't have to beg to be told that I am loved. I have learned that I am worthy of love and people do tell me, just when I least expect it and in different ways.
You ARE loved here, and your help has been so great to me in my recovery. Thanks Karilynn, and kiss that kitty for me!!
Love, Heidi and kitty family Bobby Bouchet and Yoyo, and new puppy Louie!!
and you deserve it. i'm proud to know you, and to know you're a shining example of what program can do. we here so much of the negative outcomes and the destruction in the wake. brightest blessings to your family.
with love cj
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