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My exA called me last night. I haven't spoken to him in weeks, even then it was short and curt. Anyway he was sober last night, says he's been sober for a few weeks now and is realising his mistakes, his losses. He says he's going to occasional meetings. He doesn't like meetings, but is trying. He's also going to a counselor. (I've chosen to believe all this, even though I am vary to believe anything from him) He said sorry for all the BS in our relationship. This seemed heartfelt and genuine. I appreciated this. He said he hates me living so far away from him (about an hours drive), but then he also said that he was even further away from me when he was drinking!! This statement shocked me.
He knows our relationship is over. And that I am not going back to him.
I would love if you would keep him in your prayers. He's trying his best to chose a different life I think. I think he needs all the support he can get now.
Prayers coming your way ((((((((((((AnnMarie))))))))))))),
How does that saying go? AA is for those who want it; not those who need it. He's got to want it. It's very easy and so typical of A's to say "they don't work for me." Heck some days I don't want Al-anon to work for me either but that is the day that I most need to work it.
Keep coming, stay true to yourself, remember this is a cycle they go through -- remorse, and then we begin to wonder "hmmm, maybe the miracle will happen."
yours in recovery, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
It sounds like your A has realised what he lost. I am sorry for him. At the same time I think he has to really work on getting his own support. I know the A I live with does better when he has support. I can encourage it but I can't make him do it.
I am glad you are getting on with your own life. I wish I could and in time I will after I deal with a few obstacles.
