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I had to share this story with you because I found it inspiriering (sp) Please take the time to read this : According to an old legend, two monks named Tanzan and Ekido were traveling together down a muddly road one day. Heavy monsoon rains had saturated the area, and they were gratful for a few moments of sunshine to make their journey. Before long, they came around a bend and encountered a lovely girl in a silk kimono. She looked forlorn as she stared at the muddy road before her.
At once, Tanzan responded to her plight. "Come here, girl," he said. Then lifting her in his arms, he carried her over he slippery ooze to the other side of the road.
Ekido didn't speak again to Tanzan. Then that night after they reached their intended lodging, Ekido could no longer restrain his anger and disappointment. "We monks don't go near woman," he said to Tanzan in an accusing voice. "Why did you do that?" "I left the girl back there, Ekido," replied Tanzan. "Are you still carrying her?"
Ekido thought that he had insulated himself from temptation by constructing rigid laws of conduct. Because he was focused on the letter of the law, he succumbed to the temptation to be ruled by anger, resentment, intolerance, and a lack of kindness.
Don't be fooled; only your HP can help you master temptation by writing His living laws upon your heart.
I found this helpful that I need to let alot of A's actions roll off of me and quit "carrying" it around with me and live for me. Do things from the kindness of my heart no matter what anyone thinks is right for me. I'm sure we will all get something else from it but I wanted to share. I thought it had a powerful meaning to it. :)
Friend, that is very good! It's like a yardstick to measure yourself by . . . am I acting from compassion and good will or resentment, or martyrdom. Thank you for posting this, I think I'll write in my journal about this.
