I think our children, no matter their sex or their age, whether they are troubled or not, are going to "take us for granted" to a certain extent. It's up to us, as parents, to draw the line in the sand. In my case, my sons' "taking me for granted" means that they know I am always going to be there for them, and that I would lay down my very life to help and protect them. Doesn't mean I'll get a birthday card or a telephone call as often as I would like. But I "take for granted" too that they love me to the core of their beings. Their only sin is being human, and sometimes just a tad thoughtless.

If "taking for granted" is more serious than that for you, it's time to learn to live on YOUR terms, and not theirs. You can be loving, yet firm, making it clear what you are willing to give, sacrifice, or offer. AND...what you are NOT! Remembering that under no circumstances do you want to become estranged. My heart breaks for parents and children who are, because it is not a natural way of life...ever. Stand up for yourself and your right to do as you please.

Remember....firm....love...you win.

Best wishes, Diva