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hi all i am new to this format and am looking to get some experience strength and hope from al-anon.i have 9.5 years clean from chemicals( no drugs etoh) BUT my husband is an active and really sick drunk. how is that for twisted?I didnt get enuf pain torturing myself I had to stay w a active drinker.i was introduced to al-anon in treatment and found it was the best in helping me not let anothers disease run me, BUt I stayed with him.why?
so i know i need a place to be able to go and share and not offend anyone because I was that drunk. problem is that now I am just as weak and powerless over the enabling as the drugs! I hate it and hate myself for allowing his disease to run me.Is there anyone like me ( both a recovering addict/alchoholic and with an active drinker) with some time who can share?
thanks and I am still gr8tful to all the rooms and the spiritual priinciples
Welcome to MIP. As the story goes... anyone who has been affected by the drinking of a relative or friend. This board is no different. There are many "double winners" in my home group. I would likely be one had my wifes disease not progressed so quickly.
I became the babysitter instead of the drinking partner pretty quick.
You are in good company. I encourage you to share. This is a great place to be. Living with an active A is very challenging, no matter your past experiences.
You are in the right place.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Yes.... let's see, I have an alcoholic father, daughter, ex-mother in law, ex-sister in law, and uncle. I am sober a while myself. I came to AA before Alanon. It's interesting to do both. My alcoholics though, are all sober... or dead. Have not lived with active alcoholism for a long time, and I don't want to.
thank you so much.I am better now and did take care of me that day,I just had to get back to the basics and remember the principles. its funny,when I came to the rooms I didnt ever dream of this and now i work, go to school and attend meetings online.
i just wanted to add my experience from the DOUBLE-WINNERS i have friendships with.
from what i understand of their truth and the open-AA meetings i've attended, AA treats the addiction and dependency - Alanon treats the personality (feelings) and codependency. it made sense to me, but please, take what you want and leave the rest.
much love cj
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