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Understanding step one


This is a total God story that happened to me the other day that most al-anons will relate to, so I hope you can get something from it. 

I was driving my car one day, I had my two children in the back strapped into their carseats.  I turned onto a side street and as I drove up the street a truck to my left caught my eye.  It was parked on the side of the road, but as I approached I realized that it was moving....slowly.  As it was rolling down the street it started picking up momentum, I didn't know what to do, I felt helpless.  I looked over to my right and saw some construction workers, they looked over and noticed that their truck was rolling down the street!  One guy ran out of the construction zone, into the street and hightailed it for his truck.  Well as soon as he got into the truck and stepped on the brakes, his truck had hit another vehicle parked on the opposite side.  As I pulled into the parking lot where I was going I started feeling like 'I should have done something, I should have stopped that accident from happening'  I was thinking of possible scenarios that might have worked....Maybe I could have left my car in the middle of the road with my two kids inside and jumped into the truck and stopped it from hitting the other car, or maybe I could have pulled my car up to the truck so it would have hit my car instead of the other car!!  Then I stopped myself from thinking this way and realized that I didn't cause the accident, I couldn't stop it (without putting myself and my children in danger) and I'm not responsible for the accident!!  What could I do...take care of myself be getting out of the way.   I think God was trying to show me something that day and I will never forget it!   I didn't cause the disease, I can't prevent it and I can't stop it!  Whew, what a relief.   Thank-you for listening and I hope this story helped some of you!!

BTW I was on my way to an al-anon meeting!

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 lol! that is an awsome story. reading it i was thinking " no way could you or should you have done anything differently" but i totally understood when you immediatly started questioning what had happened and how you could have changed it. i have done the same thing many times. what a great reminder for me that i didn't cause it, i can't control it and i can't cure it! thanks!

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Aloha Moon!

That certainly is a step one story and you were definitely powerless.  Awesome unmanagable thinking though somewhat on the order of "Superwoman" don't you think?  The behavior was all recovery.  Happy you didn't act it out your thinking.  By the way I also think in that way at times but not as much as I use to.  I misplaced my blue spandex with the red S on the shirt.

Keep coming back ((((hugs))))

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Great story!

And I think this is a wonderful of example of how we can apply our tools to every aspect of our lives.


Andi



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((((((moon))))))

Wow! You said ...maybe I could have let the truck hit my car instead of the other car......that is true pre-alanon thinking,isn't it? I will take the pain,I will take on the burden, I will stop the other person from feeling bad.I can handle it,they can't.....blah,blah,blah

Great reminder.I love this.Thanks.

dru


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drucilla06 wrote:
((((((moon))))))

Wow! You said ...maybe I could have let the truck hit my car instead of the other car......that is true pre-alanon thinking,isn't it? I

I know!! Hillarious but yes it did cross my mind after the fact (rolling eyes) It's a good thing I'm working a program, I can't imagine my life without one!


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Jerry F wrote:
Aloha Moon!

That certainly is a step one story and you were definitely powerless.  Awesome unmanagable thinking though somewhat on the order of "Superwoman" don't you think?  The behavior was all recovery.  Happy you didn't act it out your thinking.  By the way I also think in that way at times but not as much as I use to.  I misplaced my blue spandex with the red S on the shirt.

Keep coming back ((((hugs))))

I think I will be going to meetings for the rest of my life!  (Let's hope so anyway)

I don't know about superwoman, I think maybe wonderwoman is a bit more appropriate!


Thanks for reading.



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