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When I was at my last job in my little town there was a man my age who was hired around the same time as I was .. I already knew the guy had 3 red flags all alcohol related .. I saw some other behaviors while I was still there and knew that at some point it was going to not well, as in he had a temper when he was not sober. I had witnessed it with some other situations that were off work as well as at. One thing that I was SUPER concerned about was the sobriety at work because it was a warehouse situation.
So it finally happened .. he was out got drunk and proceeded to hurt someone else really badly .. it was a bar situation and now he's in jail waiting arraignment I am waiting to find out exactly how it went down. Here's the interesting part .. the comments on this story and all of them saying how they never saw him as a bully and I shook my head silently thinking .. you were either just as intoxicated as he was or did not witness the stuff I saw after he had been at work. They obviously didn't work with him either .. he was just not a nice person.
I was a little stunned about it all still .. and again I have information I shouldn't .. I do because of what I did .. I wonder if he was fired or if he had been let go for "other reasons" .. I have a feeling this would be the final straw for him at that place .. who knows .. it is a crazy situation to say the least.
Anyway, it still makes me sad because he was a nice guy when sober .. when intoxicated .. not so much.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
My husband is a really nice guy when sober. Caring, the best father you could imagine...but when drunk, is an absolute monster. I think the closer you get to an alcoholic person the better and sooner you see the signs and pain
Thanks Serenity for this topic and these are all important shares. My A became very mean once the drinking was heavy. These shares caused me to reflect on my 6th grade teacher who was like a Jekyl and Hyde, and eventually fired. I did not understand what was going on then. And in my early adult hood I worked in an office with a woman who kept a bottle in her pocketbook in a brown paper bag. Her face was often red and swollen. I did not understand this either in my 20's. Life is painful, interesting, and joyful . Thank God for program,Lyne
Watching the disease with our 'knowledge and tools' is very difficult...I am one who prays for those who struggle and can't get it. I too get sad as the disease progresses - it touches me deeply and I can only believe it's because I now know what it's like to live a life of recovery instead of insane obsession of people, places, things and this disease.
I'm sorry for your sadness Serenity - I do get it. It just reminds me how powerless we are, no matter who we are, what we know or where we've been. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I am hard pressed to believe he's still employed at my previous work based upon what I have been reading and I am pretty positive this outburst is not isolated .. I'm seeing some things that happened after I left. I feel so sorry for him. I do hope he finds the help he desperately needs .. i am grateful my xah wherever he's doing or not doing managed not to do this because he was headed that direction. S :/
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
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