I was married for almost 24 years, my ex husband has been a part of my life for more than 35 years. he became an alcoholic in the last 10-12 years of our marriage. I was there for several attempts to get sober including in patient rehab. In 2014 I had to save myself and divorce, when he relapsed and went through sedated detox. His BAC at intake was .399 he was working out of town and was threatening to hurt himself. It is not easy getting emergency services when you are three states away but I did. I remember telling one of the concilors I needed to leave him but was afraid I would see hm drunk and homeless on the side of the road one day. He told me that wasn't my problem, my ex carried the responsibity of his sobriety. If I had not sent emergenc services that night I know he would have died. He has been sober and relapsing since then, another hospital stay, crazy texts, emails and a totally crazy phone call earlier this year demanding I tell him when I was hiding from him, telling me the living room was all dis shelved and blood everywhere. We divorced in 2014. His daughter (my step daughter) had been bearing the situation the past sevaral years. Friday afternoon when my phone rang and I saw it was her, I knew automatically why she was calling. He died, he was found by police sitting in his living room dead after he didn't respond to a friend's text. His daughters drove the three hours to his place to find alcohol everywhere and his watered down drink on the table beside the chair. He was a kind, generous, intelligent man, I am mourning my marriage, the loss of a future with a wonderful man and the death of the only man I've loved. I really hoped and prayed he would get a handle on this disease and return to the man I married.