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Today I am moving some of my belongings from my home with my A to a condo near my son. I will be living half the week (in another month or so), apart from my A. She is currently working a program and making progress, but as I cannot predict the future nor control it, I have taken steps for ME! This is a huge step and I'm sure without program, I would not have had the courage and strength to do this. I also think that my marriage will either get better, or not, & it's way overdue to figure out which direction we will go in. It is a very happy day for me, Lyne. Thanks everyone
Hey Lyne - self care looks GREAT on you!!! I am reminded that when we focus on us and let go of 'the rest', more is always revealed! Hoping your moving is uneventful and as stress-free as possible.....I am one who can get really wound up with a move - sending you positive thoughts and prayers!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Yeah, I love this, detaching enough from your wife but with love, love of her and love of yourself to do whats right for you, for your serenity, your peace. I hope your wife continues in her own journey towards peace and serenity.
Great post Lyne and thanks for the memory. In early Al-Anon I was encouraged to adapt the idea of not doing recovery "for" her but doing it "with" her. This sounds like what the old timers were telling me. Thanks ((((Hugs))))
