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HELP. My daughter is psychotic and was admitted to a mental unit yesterday for attacking her son and me and the mental ward is going to let her out and she is going to hitch hike to Colorado for tomorrow's marijuana holiday of 4/20 and I don't know what to do anymore. She is detached from reality and cross addicted from alcohol to edible marijuana. She has no money, no car and no contact with reality. I am about done trying.....
Hello Sandra. I am so sorry this diseaseis so destructive. Did you speak to the Dr. at the hospital to see if she could be held for a longer period of time, because if she attacked you and her son , it might also be possible to have the police involved? We are powerless over this disease so please search out an alanon meeeting to help yourself become centered and then let go and let God.
Hello churchlady62,
I am sorry you are going through this. Where I live, unless you have good insurance, it is really hard to get mental health help unless you are at risk of harming yourself. At least you and your grandson are safe. Have you ever worked the 12 steps, the second step is that we ,"Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." I would rely on my higher power, I know that is not a solution for your daughter but it would give you peace. Sometimes that is all we can do.
Hi churchlady62 - I've been where you are, and I'm sure that you're frantically and desperately looking for an answer to your situation with your daughter - but as others here that are far wiser and more experienced than me have suggested, "answers" and solutions for our loved ones in these situations don;t come quick and are very, very elusive - and, in my life I';ve seen that the solutions we want, the outcomes we want, are probably not in anyone's best interest - that's a very, very hard concept to accept, much less put into practice in our lives with our world crumbling around us, but when it's as bleak as the story you've told (like many, many others here), sometimes all we can do is hang on and ask our Higher Power for strength, and try to get through the situation minute by minute. Aside from knowing that God loves your daughter and wants her to be happy, I have no idea what God's plan is for your daughter's life, but I wouldn't be surprised if this current development may be God's way of finally showing you, proving to you, that you are truly powerless over alcohol, and in realizing that, giving you the strength and courage to detach with love - I knew what I had to do for a long time, but just didn't have the strength to do it - I think you already know what you should do - in addition to taking care of and loving your grand-daughter, I lovingly invite you to join the rest of us start praying for the strength to do it.
Huge Hugs (((churchlady62))) - the disease is progressive and powerful and I am so sorry for the anxiety and worry you are experiencing....I've been there and nothing I did mattered. Al-Anon did give me tools to better cope with the insanity of the disease and the diseased. Other than was Betty suggested, I have nothing to offer with regards to your daughter.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers for you both. Please take good care of yourself and know that you are not alone. There is hope and help in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Aloha Sandra and welcome to the board. From what you said and my own experiences I believe that you and your daughter are deeply affected by the disease of alcoholism and addiction which is a compulsion of the mind and allergy of the body (and the family and everyone else connected and affected with her). She is resisting you and God and the government and all kinds of other people who love her and believe she ought not be using and drinking. The alcoholic's personality is severely self centered, egotistical and narcissistic and as long as that exist rarely is there a chance that they will honestly and seriously listen to the voices of recovery. God will and does intervene as God did in my life and never at my instant request and timeline. I don't call the shots except for and in my own recovery and I had to want that and be willing to do whatever it took on a daily basis to accept help. I fought recovery until my fight didn't work at all and then I said "UNCLE" and sat down and listened.
Welcome to the board. You sign in as "churchlady62" which leads me at least to believe that you have a discipline you follow. That discipline will help you a lot here. We are a step and tradition and concept worldwide fellowship. We are family and do this recovery with each other sharing our experiences, strengths and hope that help thousands upon thousands find peace of mind and serenity even as our alcoholics and addicts make choices for themselves that shock and anger us.
Use your discipline tool to keep coming back and consider following the suggestions that will come your way (keep coming back is a big one). Turn your daughter over to the God of your choice and allow here the freedom and consequences of her choices. She will get to own her consequences which are not yours.
Look in the white pages of your local telephone book for the Al-Anon hotline number and if there, call to find out where and when we get together then go without haste. There are twice daily meetings here at the board also and literature suggestions.
I am in support along with the rest of the family. (((((hugs)))))
the fact she told 'you what she intended to do may or may not be a subconscious asking for help .. while we can't fix things .. change cure control them, etc .. there are lots of good replies on here .. reflecting up there on what betty shared .. i would run this conversation by with her dr .. her dr may possibly have some experience with this .. and may be able to give you some strength & hope as well .. i hope you find this here .. hope you keep sharing .. hard to sit still when there is so much noise in our head (fear worry anxiety) ..
Update on crisis: Through grace of God, law enforcement and a mental facility, daughter has been diagnosed as being bi-polar and is assigned ongoing therapy. God is good and knew what was needed, we shall see where things go from here :)
(((Sandra))) - I too thank you for giving an update.....sending tons of prayers and positive thoughts.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
