The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Pre alanon when somebody did me a dirty behind the scenes, I would bite on that bait and have a full on battle...behind the scenes. Today when somebody tried to be passive aggressive behind the scenes...in secret...I left them there dangling. Did not respond nor acknowledge their existence in my day. Yay me.
geems, RAH (2)
Are you a self appointed moderator, geems?
Bringing the problem out into the light of the group may help you sort out what you need RAH (2), rather than sneak attacks on me in private and for me to not protect you from your poor behavior. I noticed that was 5 hours ago you sent me that. Maybe you've been banned again though.
RAH ...for a self appointed moderator. You do know that AA is the 37th most successful way to quit alcohol, don't you? Even Bill said it was only really designed for street drunks. So...no, I didn't bother with step 10 or any other step frankly. Man, you AA people think you have the answers...
-- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 30th of September 2016 03:08:13 PM
Got anything better to do than harrass people on message boards where you've been banned sicko? That is SAD. I assumed the RAH meant recovering alcoholic husband, but can see you have no recovery. Maybe it is RAH RAH like cheering yourself on cuz nobody else is buying your bs.
-- Edited by hotrod on Friday 30th of September 2016 07:06:20 PM
Sorry all - he's showing everyone how smart he is by getting around the ban.
I've asked for support from higher up the food chain. I've chosen to just detach.
For what it's worth, I assumed RAH was for Raging Alcoholic Husband - that's what it means in my group...
It's been an interesting month online. Must be a byproduct of the harvest moon or something but folks have been a bit crazier than usual!
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks for the feedback PC. I was questioning if I was on the right track by showing the group what was going on behind the scene that was impacting my recovery in a negative way and therefore the groups. Letting it go wasn't bringing me serenity, I felt violated. He'd been asked to leave and made an effort to get back on to post to me. It felt very old me to cover it up and pretend the alc isn't doing their thing with one of us behind the others back. No witnesses?? Didn't happen, just ask them. After 41 days in alanon, going to 2 meetings a day on average (have missed 2 in 40 days) reading the materials and working hard on my, recognizing unhealthy behaviour from me and being mindful to change it, I'm breaking that pattern and telling the truth. It happened, it's wrong, it's targeted harassment if I was the only recipient. If there are others and you haven't spoken up...well. He may be sick with alcoholism but he not barfing all over me in private anymore. NO WAY.
Good for you. This is a program of HONESTY. And bringing this crazy crap to light is part of the honesty. No covering. No shoveling someone else's sh.. Sometimes honesty isn't pretty.
