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Hello! I awoke this morning exhausted and wanting to hear from someone who is or has gone through my situation. My adult son has severe alcoholic induced liver cirrhosis, non-viral hepatitis, and Ascites. He has been in the hospital more than not since March 2016. He is 39, divorced, unable to work, has no home, car, money or insurance. He has applied and is waiting to hear on SSI disability and Medicaid. He is no longer drinking, works closely with his AA sponsor, and hopes to get on a liver transplant list.
I am a recent widow, newly active in Al Anon, and maintained my distance before he became so physically ill. The last time he was discharged from the hospital, less than two weeks ago, he had nowhere to go, and I couldn't bear the thought of him living his last days in a homeless shelter, so he is now living with me. Watching his decline is emotionally painful and being his caretaker is exhausting.
Ive tried searching Ascites, and several posts came up, but I can only see the 'previews'. How can I read the entire post and replies?
Thanks for any help you can provide. Blessings to all.
I would guess its in your settings. Click on your user name
And under settings make sure preview says forum default.
I am sorry about your sons health and condition, would the
Doctor order hospice care to help you and him? They usually
Would send out Home health services if ordered by the doctor.
Sending you a healing hug and i am sorry for your loss
Of your spouse. Glad you are going to alanon meetings.
Welcome to MIP (((Momforever))) - glad you found us and glad that you shared. Hopefully what Mirandac has answered helps you - sorry for your situation and will send positive thoughts and prayers your way.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
My AS is going through exactly what your son is going through. Only we are two months behind his progress. The physical end of the disease is scary, frustrating, and exhausting. I completely understand where you are. If you ever need to talk or vent, feel free to PM me.
As far as finding stuff on the Internet about it, here is what ascites is:
Ascites is the accumulation of protein-containing (ascitic) fluid within the abdomen. Many disorders can cause ascites, but the most common is high blood pressure in the veins that bring blood to the liver ( portal hypertension), which is usually due to cirrhosis.
Also ask your son's doctor for information- they'll be glad to share with you. I received lots of information.
My AS has been tapped three times, and it's controlled now with three different medicines.
As far as the topic ascites on the boards, don't click on preview, but click on the title. It will open the whole post.
Hang in there! Being the caregiver is so tough. Now is the time to accept help if it's offered and asking others for help. It's tough for me to do, but I've found if I don't, I quickly lose my sanity. I feel like I've given so much already and I'm asked to give even more with my AS's health deteriorating. Do lean on others and your Alanon family and HP. Please keep coming back!
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Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well. Anonymous
(((Mom)) I have been there and know how difficult this journey can be Prayers and positive thoughts on the way . Please do reach out to alanon face to face meetings for the much needed support and understanding.
in addition to what Mirandac said above, you also should just be able to click on the topic you see and the thread will come up. Let us know how it goes.
Oh my gosh, this is just like my ex-husband. His abdomen was extremely swollen for years before it was discovered he was drinking in secret (after a long history of alcoholism and claiming he quit). His sister is a physician assistant and said it is ascites. I never understood what this was exactly so you helped me a lot by posting.
((((momforever)))) Sorry for what you are going through... I googled ascites and found a lot of information about it. I am glad I did as I have a sister who has a swollen abdomen as well. And I am glad you posted also. You and your son are in my prayers
