The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
this is the first time I've ever participated in something like this -- where I'm seeking advice about my problems. I usually just hide everything bc I am embarrassed it is happening to me and I'm having a difficult time accepting truth. I have been married 15 months to my husband who has had a history trouble with alcohol and drugs. I meet him while he was still in the military... Long story short he was initially disfunctional with drugs and drinking but I didn't see the signs even thought they were there. He was other than honorably discharged from the marines due to his drinking history. He loves to to party and have fun. But eventually I was no longer having fun and wanted to be serious and so did he. We have hit many speed bump and his behavior with drugs and alcohol has improved. He has a job and goes to school but he can't control himself when he drinks... To the point where I am scared of him bc he loses his mind(literally). So he made a commitment to stop drinking for good three months ago and had been good to his promise. But every three months or so I find him doing something else... Weed, adderal. Its like he can't say no to anything. He constantly lying and I don't trust him at all anymore. I want a future with him and to have a family bu
Welcome Carrot Alcoholism is a dreadful, progressive, fatal disease that can be arrested but never cured. The disease not only affects the person who drinks but also the family who lives with them. AA is the recovery program for the person who drinks. Alanon is the program set up for family members and they hold face to face meeting in most communities.
Alanon face to face meetings helps us to break the isolation caused by living with the disease, as we are helped to develop new constructive tools to live by.
Please search out meetings and keep coming back. There is hope
Hello Carrot - I too welcome you to MIP. Glad you found us and glad that you shared. I lived with this disease around me for a long while, and jumped right into the insanity it brings. By finding local meetings and working the Al-Anon program, I have found help and hope. We can't control, change or cure anyone else no matter how much we want to or love them.
Join us and keep coming back - you are not alone and as Betty suggest, there is hope!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Welcome Carrot, ftf meetings will help You
on your own Recovery journey. The Meetings
are about you not your Qualifier.
You can learn good and Healthy tools such
as loving detachment, Healthy boundaries,
stay in your own hula Hoop, stay on your
side of the street plus many more.
There are three daily readers to purchase
If you would like also a lending library at
most Meetings.
Just a suggestion: I you have the time, look into the AlAnon readers Courage to Change and One Day at a Time and I believe you will find many answers you seek. These books are often used as the basis of meetings and you can look up specific topics in the books. I "think" you may find the information here removes some of your pain and may even help bring you to a face to face meeting. I went for a while and refused to go back for over four years. When I was truly ready, I went back and I found that the things I had found so "distasteful" in my first few meetings were likely just my own issues and not necessarily those of the group. I now find that I truly enjoy the program and am able to sit and listen and even to participate without dissolving into a puddle of tears each and every moment of the meetings. Now, I find that the meetings help me to look at my own issues and to focus on me. Before, I could NEVER have done that, because I was too busy handling the problems of my qualified (and everyone else). Now, they are responsible for themselves, and the joy of this simple change is honestly more freeing than anything I could have ever imagined.
