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As you all know or most on here about my a/sister that Li Es here with me and in no program or gets any help,getting on with my story she decided to get off her 20 yr opioids addictions,on her own she says,I had told here that she couldn't do it on her own that she would need help,she says she had to detox herself that she would prolly need my help in doing so,she talking of having diareah and feeling my arms show me how cold they are,my thinking is this is just another mind game she playing that I know she has tried over the years to get off it before to no avail,she said this time was different she never went this far,I'm being not supportive cause I don't believe all this detoxing all by yourself then going for help I just have no trust in her besides I pretty sure she stole money out of my purse ,my last 20 matter of Fa t cause she is so broke till next week pay day,should I h e compassion. Toward her or just ignore her altogether ,she has some kind of motive behind her doing this,anything to get her ways ......Ty....i need more esh wit this one Ty....lu
A Detox at home can be very dangerous. I would treat her with courtesy and be gentle all around and suggest that she contact a Dr or go the ER if her symptoms increase.
From experience I fully agree with Betty. Might try convincing her that the condition for your help is that she gets attention from doctors and rehab...no further discussion. You don't know what it is about and that is as honest as one can get and it has and can again turn around on the addict and make everything worse. This is first hand "the disease is cunning, powerful and baffling". Adding her to my prayers. ((((hugs))))
You don't have to believe her or not believe her, time will tell of course, but you don't have to engage in the conversations about what she's doing or not doing. You have a realistic idea of her chance of success, but you don't have to persuade her of that. It sounds like medical help would be a good thing, but beyond suggestions or calling an ambulance you don't have power over that either. As for whether to ignore her or have compassion, I'd suggest that you can do both at the same time. She is in a bad way with the stealing, so I hope you will take care of yourself.
Thanks for all the great esh,and it all seemed strange by her wanting me to help her with it when she didn't have any symptoms really showing,well she threatened me with my world was gonna come tumbling down and got in her car and drove away said she was gonna meet someone that had something to help her,I dunno,I do know that she never came back,so she found some money somewhere.i don't know what she meant by that statement she made at me,but I can take a wild guess at where that money came from.from me.....anyway it's her life she can do what she wants with it non of my business,and I'll start putting my money in a safer place......
I hate to say it, but I think there's a point where sisterly loyalty has to end. I adore my little sisters and I would do anything for them, but enabling her isn't really helping her. Hope things get better.
Thank you lullabye,my thinking is just that ,I'm her worst enemy being the enabler I am,it seems I get sucked into enabling before I realise it,and that's from I'm sure hanging out with such ppl as addicts,I need and I'm going to make a change there and start hanging out with healthy ppl........hugs. Lu
Its difficult with long years of sibling relationships. I know I struggle with relationships I've only had for two or five years, I can only imagine how hard it is to do with one that firstly, you didn't initially choose and secondly you've had almost as long as you've been alive. I think you're doing great. Keep on working your programme, one day at a time, progress not perfection.
